New to Nofap

So I just wanted to post to nofap. I’ve been reading forums on this site for a few years now. Started out similar to many people with vanilla porn/pics. I’ve kissed and messed around with girls outside of actual sex and never thought twice about anything. But when I finally had my first sexual encounter I had a tough time getting it up and eventually I did and had sex twice but I really beat myself up about not being able to get it up the few times. Once the girl broke it off I felt inadequate and used femdom, sissy, and findom porn because of a low self worth. I used porn as an outlet for anxiety and avoided chances to be with a girl Over time I have come back down to just looking at pictures again. It’s been 5 years since I last had sex. Over the past few months I began talking to this girl and the good news is I can get a boner when we cuddle and while I kiss her lips and breasts. Bad news is that when I have gone for sex I’ve been soft. I am 8 days clean, always have ate healthy and worked out! I do have a weird think where I masturbate with shorts over top. I guess I’m a little confused whether or not porn has a hold on me or not. Or is it just performance anxiety? It’s been so long since I’ve had sex I’ve kinda forgot what it’s like and I do feel like it’s easier for me to get turned on from masturbating rather than having sex. How long would it take for me to recover if it is because of porn?