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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Drock989, Jun 6, 2018.

  1. Drock989

    Drock989 Fapstronaut

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    hey, I'm new to the site so let me introduce myself. I'm a 28 year old male and pmo has been an issue with me since about 18 years old. and only started to see this as a serious problem as of 6 months ago, as it has caused some serious issues with my relationship. I have lost trust with my partner and desperately need to get that back. I have recently started seeing a therapist and succeeded and went about 110 days pmo free. I had a relapse when my partner went out of town and told her when she got home, trust was broken again but I'm back on the right track and more determined than ever, I need that trust back, I am roughly 20 days back in to being pmo free, and it feels great, I have decide not to keep an actual days count as I plan for it to be forever.

    thanks for reading
     
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  2. Moon Shot

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    Hey! Welcome to this community and it's great seeing your motivation to change. 110 days!?! WOW! CONGRATS, MATE> :D Make sure to keep a reboot journal in the appropriate forum (you don't have track the days :)) and I wish you all the best in your journey to a better life. Take care, and keep fighting even when the going gets tough.
     
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  3. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     
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  4. Nadamotain

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    This is a great time to be porn, masturbation, and orgasm free. True enlightenment comes from success and we all are doing our best.
     

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