New to these forums, 100 days relapse

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  1. Incendiary_Apple

    Incendiary_Apple Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone hope your all doing great, this is my first ever post, apologies if i did something wrong.

    I am a 15 year old male and have been reading about this nofap stuff for what must be about a year now. I had a few streaks before but i always relapsed at around day 40. My most recent streak made it all the way up to 100 and i felt my life was somewhat improving. I have got closer to my friends and even got with my first girl. However, about a week ago I messed up, full PMO. Since then i have been trying so hard to fight these intense urges because i really do not want to slip into a binge. I have watched porn since that relapse twice for >5 minutes but i quickly realized how disgusting it was and immediately turned it off without M or O. I really cant tell if this past week has completely messed up all my 100 days or only set me back slightly, i feel less energetic then before but my confidence is still strong. Any advice on how to get back on track is greatly appreciated, thanks.
     
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  2. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

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    Welcome! I'm glad you're here. There are a lot of guys your age here, so you might want to link up with some of them.

    We get back on track in pretty simple ways. Coming here is a good way to start fresh. Look around, explore, and learn. Keep coming back!
     
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    Thank you, this will help
     
  4. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     
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