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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by kal jackson, Jul 12, 2015.

  1. kal jackson

    kal jackson Fapstronaut

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    hey there guys my name is kal and this is not my first time I try to stop myself from fappin
    or watching porn every time I get horny, I try a lot but every time I end up faping more crazier than ever and when I hit the pleasure . I regret what I did and get the feeling like I'll never be able to control my emotions and hence be able to success in my life, all that and I strongly believe that porn and faping has strongly negative impact on my life including , lack of concentrating ,social phobia ,and procrastination (this alone will take me a whole thread to explain that I'm the world topper procrastinator and really need a Guinness world record for that).

    anyway I still holding hope inside me that I'm going to change my life and make my all dreams come true this hope is what make stand up every time I'm down and try again ....

    I actually want to start it off 90 days , yes 90 days of no PORN,EDGE,FAP,AND even SEX I decide to strictly keep it under control during this 90 day challenge , to be honest I try for 3 days and I break down like a little child in the second day and the best one was for a week where I fap the crap out of me at the middle of that week .I mean I really had no success so far but I believe in this one and that I will do it , and what makes me feel even more great about it , the amazing mentors in this forum who experience what I'm experiencing now
    and go through these hard moments who I believe will guide me all my way to the success and also the people who just begin the challenge and decide to take hands together to go in 90 day of stronger everyday will power .

    may god bless u all :)
     
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  2. DannyCool

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    It is so great you are here. Go through the site particularly the success stories. They are the most positive and the best influence. Keep to the essential tips like that you wont get away with any edging at all it just wont work!
     
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  3. Icyweb

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    Keep at it, even if you slip. Just forgive yourself, learn to avoid what led to it, and move on to your better life. If you're religious pray. Pray for forgiveness, pray for strength, pray for other people, just tell God about your day, (of course he know all about it, but I think he likes to hear it from us anyway.)
    You'll make it through.
    If you ever have any questions, feel free to send me a pm. I like to help when I can.
     
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  4. Karlos

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    I'm new too and I wish you the best. You got this!
     
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  5. ptcompetitor81

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    Keep at it, use the time you would normally PMO and do productive things like reading, cleaning, or just get out and enjoy the outdoors. You got this!!
     
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  6. I'm glad that you mentioned the word "Emotions".

    As humans, we are designed in a way that we are more than able to handle our own emotions. We are built to handle them. One of the secrets to NoFap is dealing with the route of our emotions.

    Sometimes just sit down and allow yourself to literally feel the emotion behind the insane craving to watch porn. Allow yourself to work through that emotion. Let it pass through you. Sometimes all kinds of emotions will come up. If you're honest with the feelings, sometimes things will come up about yourself that you didn't know existed. Insecurities about women, or even anger towards them. Anger, a lot of the time, and rage, are some of the emotions which cause men to want to furiously masturbate over pixels on a screen. We start to view women as objects, as objects that we think we cannot obtain. We start to seem women as these teasers and it makes us angry. Work through that emotion and feel it. Let it pass through you.

    When we start doing this honestly, we'll find that these urges become easier to fight. A lot of it is just pent up anger towards the opposite gender.

    Sometimes it's more than just a mere moment of horniness or urges. There are all kinds of hidden emotions as to why men watch porn and masturbate, because actually, in reality, both are things we don't even need. Just a woman is enough. We've been conditioned into believing that masturbation is a necessity, when it's actually not.
     
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  7. kal jackson

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    thank you cool danny the great moment for me is reading your encouraging words and I'll defiantly take your advice going through success stories , thanks again for support and I wish u the huge success from bottom of my heart
     
  8. kal jackson

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    thank you icyweb for this to heart spoken words , I really appreciate it , this is my first day already and with this kind of support of you great people I'm going to make it happen

    thank you again and I wish you the best
     
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  9. kal jackson

    kal jackson Fapstronaut

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    I got ya my brother and from the bottom of my heart I wish u the best too
     
  10. kal jackson

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    thank you so much for the great advice brother , I will make sure to keep myself busy during the hard times with such activities and hope it works , I'm really glad to see that much unexpected support of you guys during the beginning of my journey , this support will be my reason to keep up in down times

    thank you again and I wish you the best brother
     
  11. DannyCool

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    It is great to have you here @kal jackson keep in touch
     
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  12. kal jackson

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    this is so true AlltheRageBackHome and I'm totally agreeing with you on the behind scenes reasons of why we jerk over pixels and the truth escaping of reality of facing woman , I also adore your concept of sitting down and kinds of meditating and observe these emotions as it pass through , I belive that many things could be fixed in our life if we become self awareness and questioned our self or just observe these emotions as they pass by and figure out the real reason behind . this will be from this day on my panic approach during the hard times . thank u so much for the great advice and I wish u the best
     
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  13. kal jackson

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    thanks bud , It is great that you are here
     

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