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Jayce95 · May 20, 2014

Hello all!

I'll try to keep it short and easy to read.

I'm in my late 20s now and unfortunately, I have been watching and masturbating/finishing to porn at minimum, once a day since I was 16-17 years old (sometimes 3-5 times a day). I have had a INSANELY high sex drive for as long as I can remember and that hasn't changed even over a decade later. I love sex and the mere sight of a woman I find attractive, all I can think to myself is "god, the things I would love to do with her and her do to me". I see a picture of a good looking female and my sex drive goes from off to nuclear explosion in a matter of milliseconds (no exaggeration on that either). I get, in no word a of a lie, rock solid in 10-15 seconds when an erotic image, video or even thought comes to my mind and I just have an overwhelming and uncontrollable urge to masturbate to orgasm. To be honest, if I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't need to touch porn (provided she had a similar sex drive), but being single through pretty much all of my 20s aside from 1-2 short term dates, there wasn't much else I could do.

My issues aside, I began trying to abstain from all things sex this month, but it feels like I haven't made much progress as I relapsed today and ejaculated twice (but not to porn). This has been my results so far (kinda sad honestly):

-Started May 3rd, 2014
-Relapse occurred on May 12th.
-Began again on May 13th.
-Relapse occurred on May 20th.

As you can see, I can barely make it a week or 2 before something miniscule like a picture of a woman starts a chain reaction and before I know it, I've already masturbated to orgasm. The only good thing I've noticed so far during the abstaining phases is that I wake up with morning wood (I mean rock solid erections that last for 20-30 minutes and won't go away no matter what I do).

I also have pretty much every negative physical side effect of excessive masturbation/ejaculation including hair loss/thinning, chronic fatigue, bad memory, eye floaters/worsened eye sight, last bit of fat around my midsection that won't go away no matter how well I eat and how much I exercise, etc.

Sadly, I'm back at day 1 tomorrow...

-Jayce

thepotato · May 20, 2014

Hey Jayce, welcome to NoFap and we're here to help man. There's a lot of us on here that share your thoughts and experiences and we all want to tell you you're not alone in this battle. I know whenever I get the urge or I get hit with a trigger I try to turn to music to calm myself down. If that doesn't work go for a run / do 10 pushups. It'll get some of that energy out and you'll begin to think clearer and make the right choices.

If images and sites are super accessible to you all the time, download K9 Web Protection. Save the email to your NoFap account (I think you can) and the site will block every trigger known to man. It helps me and it will help you.

Keep writing about everything that happens. I know day one sucks but you're one day stronger. Type in Imgur:NoFap to get some motivational pics as well.

Good luck man and carry on!!

Atari 2600 · May 21, 2014

It's good to see younger people on here trying to turn things around. I'm 40 and I'm just getting started. I would think it's harder for young people because of the internet and whats on TV these days. They can do this from home instead of having to buy a mag or VHS tape at a store!

I do remember the same circumstances when I was in my 20's. Being single and on your own makes it 10 times worse. I would always be a lot better when I had something to focus on though. Drawing, writing, and even playing video games would help a lot! Think that was my first intro to MMO's lol.

Keep busy and good luck! Hope all goes well.

ankurkool17 · May 21, 2014

Well you gotta be strong now,buddy. The first 21 days are the most difficult day you would go through. Even I'm worried how would I go through my process. But you gotta stay your hands away from pants, no matter what happens. Just think of fapping the temporary happiness the effects will devastate your life by making your miserable. You gotta come on top ,If there is any time you feel you get hard on just listen to the Metal, Rock, Punk, Pop songs. don't listen to love/seduction Songs. The Songs will take your mind off. Just try and let me know the results.

Good luck

Jayce95 · May 21, 2014

Thanks for the replies guys, giving up all things sex related is going to be the hardest thing I'll do. It's like going on an extended fast for someone who loves food, just A LOT harder. Anyway, there are a few questions I forgot to ask, maybe someone can help me out:

1) What happens if I meet someone and start dating? Not only will it be impossible to NOT want to have sex with her, I can't make her wait 3-6 months or longer either. This would definitely reset all my progress won't it?

2) Can I do my PE exercises during my NoFap recovery without resetting?

3) How do I know how long to abstain for to fully heal my mental as well as physical ailments related to this major problem?

Thanks again, I will definitely keep my progress updated.

-Jayce

Jayce95 · May 22, 2014

I was wondering why I haven't gotten any replies in the past couple days. Thanks to whoever moved the thread to this forum, now I surely won't get any answers to my questions. Fantastic!

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