new to trying to quit porn

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Deleted Account, Nov 6, 2019.

  1. Hello!

    Some background on me: I'm in my mid 20s, atheist, and an FTM transgender person. I've never been someone who had a problem with porn or masturbation in the past so this is all new to me and I'm trying to get ahead of it now. Basically, I think for years I hated my body and sexuality too much to even masturbate that much but after starting to medically transition (which means taking testosterone for me) I have become a lot more confident and therefor interested in both sex and masturbation. I also think that the physical effects of taking these hormones and drastically raised my libido which is a new experience for me.

    For these reasons and the fact that I'm single the past few months I've really been getting into porn. I didn't think there was a problem until I noticed that my interests have "escalated" into more violent, disgusting, and misogynistic stuff that I can't even believe I'm getting off to. This coupled with a lot of the recent news stories about sex trafficking and underage stuff on major porn websites has made me decide that I need to quit. I really didn't expect it to be hard or a problem at all but now that I've been trying to stop and can't, I realized that I'm probably addicted to porn.

    My goal is to make it through the whole month without consuming porn but I'm not even a week in and I don't feel like I'm going to make it. I don't know what to do or how to stop wanting it so bad. I have a therapist but I don't see him often and really don't know how to bring up this problem and I'm just so embarrassed and disgusted with myself I don't know where to go.

    This week I've been substituting looking at actual porn with just searching for "sexy" pictures on instagram and also reading erotic stuff (but even that I can't help but go right to violent stories which probably is just as bad for my brain as the porn I was watching). I've also been tempted to get back into having a bunch of meaningless drunk sex with strangers like I did in college or maybe I just need to get another longterm partner? I don't know.

    Anyway, I really think I'm just on here now to look for community in this as well as encouragement or any tips you guys have.
     
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  2. an0n8200

    an0n8200 Fapstronaut

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    Welcome, and well done for having the courage to admit to yourself that you have a problem. I've been struggling with my streak as well. Just try and stay busy
     
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  3. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
  4. Handzfree

    Handzfree Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    Hi ftmos,

    Welcome to NoFap. A good place to be.

    A few offerings in I may...

    First go to a website https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/

    This will help you understand the neurological impact porn has on a persons brain. Masturbating releases a neuro chemical called dopamine which is the body's equivalent to heroin. Ever wonder about that "world disappear" feeling at and after an orgasm? Dopamine.

    Plus dopamine rewires circuits in the brain so you crave more.

    I would suggest starting a daily journal either here or privately. Finding an accountability partner here or anywhere and maybe putting a blocker or accountability software on your devices.

    When you get the urge to give in you have to redirect your thoughts. And find something to take your mind off of things.

    I would have to imagine the T hormones are waking up your sex drive. That's ok ands it's a part of who you will be. How you respond to those urges is up to you

    I see you have a day counter... get a few clean days under your belt. And I totally agree the porn industry is not known for making valuable contributions to society.

    As far as substitutes... INMO, your brain doesn't discern any difference. If you want to quit, you have to give it all up.

    Cheers, welcome
    HF
     
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  5. keepitinmybriefs

    keepitinmybriefs Fapstronaut

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    Welcome, and good luck on your nofap journey! I would do my usual recommendation of briefs to wear, but given your situation, you're probably best sticking with whatever gives you the most gender euphoria. :)
     
  6. ZORROW

    ZORROW Fapstronaut

    Hi friend , welcome to this community , let me tell my expreince , i am an porn and fap addict for past 9 years and i was very faithful towards porn industry , i was there faithful client/customer , i watched porn almost everyday , use to fap 3 times in a day , in return i always thought that i am doing good , i was feeling great but as the time went by i discovered many side effects in my life , i was no longer intrested in real girls , all i did was checked their body parts , for me women was becoming a sex object , one of the most embrassing situation arised when i went to dinner with my cousin family and there i saw my aunt from a different view , all the thoughts that i was having that time was of lust , and that was very shameful , i used to quit this habit but it worked for me , in this 2019 i had a record for not fapping for 89 days but i was consuming porn on every alternate day and was lying to myself that its ok , i am not fapping i am just watching porn but the truth was PORN is more dangerous then masturbation , PORN is the real product for destruction and masturbation is the by product .

    Now after fighting with myself and reading a lot about this thing i realised the only way to get succeded in this process is to enjoy the healing journey ( i.e. every month/week/day/second when i am not watching porn nor fapping is my healing time) and i am starting enjoying it ,

    I faced a lot of problems due to this porn , hairfall started at very young age ( 19 to be precise ) then later in my 20's i got aware that i am developing this problem of premature ejaculation , i could no longer concentrate on my studies , my friends are getting ahead in their career and i am just sitting here in front of this digital screen with my hand holding my dick , and driving me towards hell , i am just 23 y/o right now but i have suffered a lot because of this ,

    I was fantasicing about my female freinds my sisters in a very wrong way , i was never used to be like this guy and i was turning into someone i dont like , so now i decided to join this community and write here about my expreince , if i can help 1 soul , then my mission will get complete . Belive me we are getting fucked by this porn industry which uses their sugar coated invisible dick .

    Porn can only give you the expreince of HELL in this heavenly earth. Remove it from your life before PORN remove you from your life.

    There is only 1 mantra for winning this battle and that is read about this danger ( Your brain on porn book by GARY) would be the best start for you, get aware of your thoughts , and be busy in improving yourself that you dont have time for these things , EMPTY MIND IS DEVIL'S PLAYHOUSE.
     
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  7. Handzfree

    Handzfree Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    This is a great comment - I always look at myself and say "who do you want to be? You want to be the guy hunched over a screen late at night looking at porn?... is that what you want out of life."

    Well put Zorrow!

    HF
     
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