New user intro

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by 1725, Jan 17, 2018.

  1. 1725

    1725 Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone. I am brand new to this site and have been struggling with porn on and off since I was a teenager. I am in my mid-20s now, have a wonderful girlfriend of many years and am soon to finish my medical training at the end of this year. I realize that I can't fully return the love and affection of my girlfriend nor appropriately provide medical care to my future patients if porn keeps me in the mindset of viewing people as simple, expendable objects to be used instead of complex, unique individuals. Though I have realized that porn is a false representation of romance and intimacy for a while, all my efforts to quit have been done so alone and these repeated attempts to quit without any sort of support have been the cause of each downfall. I hope that, by joining you all, I can find some support and community to create lasting change by doing away with the plastic passion of porn and find true fulfillment in real relationships.
     
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  2. PaleAle76

    PaleAle76 Fapstronaut

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    Welcome aboard! Out of curiosity, have yo discussed any of this with your gf?
     
  3. gsherman100

    gsherman100 Fapstronaut

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    Hey welcome!
     
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  4. Hey ,

    I'm just a normal ordinary member. No moderator super powers and no special insite. I share my ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) of what works for me.

    Just another warm welcome and a heart felt hello. This community has helped me so much.

    What worked for me was "working" it. It took hard work for me to complete a hard reboot (No pmo) for 120 days, then move into a Sex Positive mode.

    First, reading the literature published by NoFap itself along with reading journals.

    Then, doing the work. Writing in my journal and replying to introductions and other's journals.

    Finally, but not least, getting involved with the fellowship. I found it on the forums, but also in people's profiles. The forums tend to be longer posts, where the profiles tend to be more "conversational".

    That is what has worked for me. I like to remind myself that this community was here waiting for me with the lights on when I arrived. Now, I have to do my best to be there when someone comes to the community.

    * L
     
  5. zakes

    zakes Fapstronaut

    welcome,

    The nofap forums is what is helping me to on my journey.

    And remember, those who chose the easy route will have a difficult life and those who chose the difficult route will have an easy life.


    FREEDOM AND BROTHERHOOD, VICTORY IS OURS!

    MY JOURNAL
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/my-journal.149243/
     
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  6. 1725

    1725 Fapstronaut

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    No I'm afraid I haven't. To be honest, no one in my life really knows.
     
  7. 1725

    1725 Fapstronaut

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    I truly appreciate your words. The plan that worked for you sounds wonderful and I hope that I can borrow some of your principles while establishing a few of my own as I start this journey.
     
  8. PaleAle76

    PaleAle76 Fapstronaut

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    I know the feeling! Just speaking from my experience, I don’t know if I could overcome this if my fiancé wasn’t aware of my addiction. Of course, she had to discover it herself, as I was in denial that I even had an issue. The fact that you know you have a problem means you’re already ahead of the game... it will be tougher for you if you’re still hiding things from you’re significant other. Not saying you can’t- just that it will be a steeper hill to climb. Also, stop and think hard about your feelings for this girl... do you truly lover her? Do you want a future with her? If you do, I think your best option is being honest. If she truly loves you and wants a future with you, she’ll support you.
     
  9. One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals.

    I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

    Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

    @julianstone Journals at https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146584/
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    @HerculesStop Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/140098/
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    @EdwarDG Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/151107/
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    @zakes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/149243/
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    @DavidGibson Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143325/
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    @Euklid Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146663/
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    @LilD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/147764/
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    @BreatheDeeply Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139097/
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    @LiquidShoes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/134044/
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    @Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
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    @Former_CD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/87827/
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    @PatrickR Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/
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    There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

    This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

    * L
     
  10. Protagoras

    Protagoras Fapstronaut

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    Welcome to a community where you can find friendship and help. HERE are some things helping me.
     

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