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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by ettabryant, Oct 23, 2019.

  1. ettabryant

    ettabryant New Fapstronaut

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    hi I’m a 16 year old male and I’ve been watching porn and masturbating since I was 13 consistently everyday almost. I don’t always watch porn but it’s gotten to the point where I can’t go 12 hours without masturbating and sometimes I’ll masturbate as much as 7 times in one day. This has become a big issue as I’ve recently become sexually active with my girlfriend but I can’t finish at all without myself. I can get hard but my penis is desensitised I think to anything else apart from my hand. I did research and lots of things said I could have a permeneatly desesitised penis which is terrifying but some sites said nofap was the cure. I’m on day zero with the intentions of never watching porn or masturbating again and restricting my sexual activity to just my girlfriend
     
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  2. romeolima

    romeolima Fapstronaut

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    Hello and welcome. It's good that you have come here and made a clear statement of your intentions, this is the first step to recovery.

    I think you have the right mindset that you need to ditch the porn and masturbation if it has affected you to the extent that it has. I hope you girlfriend is understanding of your situation as this will be a great help to your recovery.

    Have a look around the site, particularly at other peoples journals, these are in age brackets which may help you find people in similar situations to yourself.

    Good luck with your journey.
     
  3. Hi ettabryant,

    Try not to worry. You are young to have realised the negative effects that PMO can have on you. There are people that have suffered with this problem for decades.

    I've suffered from a lack of sensitivity myself. When I first became sexually active I was unable finish the first few times and it was very inconsistent after that. I'm 24 and I've just done 30 days of no PMO and my sensitivity is now really high. No issues at the moment with finishing with my wife.

    Good luck with your journey. It's going to be difficult to kick this habit. I recommend involving your girlfriend and talking openly about this to her if you can. I also recommend keeping a progress journal and reaching out to the community when things get tough.

    You can do this!
     
  4. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
  5. vocalfry

    vocalfry Fapstronaut

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    As much as porn/dopamine system interaction can make you like this, so is likely to be the cause of those issues, its also the answer to solving the problem. Think of it as how, by co-incidental result, you use things of and from the world to make yourself.
    Also because its the natural dopamine reward system, and tied to cycles of its own and its other associated factors, it can and will play merry hell with you trying to lead you back. When it does, realise how powerful a motivator it is. That could have been used for all sorts of other things, should you master it.

    Don't worry about falling off in the start, the small spiral, when you have the most triggers, that react with the most effect on you. Just get straight back on it. Keep pushing onward and outward. When it gets to the bigger part of the spiral you'll have less triggers that react with less power other than a few long forgotten ones that will be difficult at top and bottom of the spirals, that take longer and longer for you to hit hard points. Until one day, as long as you stay off it, you're free apart from the odd wisper of the sirens song, trying to call you back.

    Not only is there hope, there's solid probability of cure and freedom for you. Just stay the course.
     
  6. ettabryant

    ettabryant New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for the support, my girlfriend seems convinced that I’m not desensitised and that it is a problem with her how do I let her know she’s doing nothing wrong
     
  7. My advice would be to be honest with your girlfriend about your issue and get her to read about porn induced erectile dysfunction and delayed ejaculation.

    If you start making changes now and work with her to make those changes you can start to reassure her that it's not her fault. These things take time, in my relationship my wife's self confidence took a huge knock and she was convinced things were wrong with her.

    In the mean time show her how much she means to you and give her compliments, physical touch. If you are sexually intimate don't make a big deal about your ability to finish, focus on her!

    Hopefully in time things should get better! Its working for me and my wife
     

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