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Newbie on a science-inspired reboot

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by followtheresearch, Oct 1, 2019.

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  1. Oct 1, 2019 #1
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    Hey everybody, glad to have found this space.

    I'm a 24 year old male, using porn since I was about 13. My porn habit never felt obsessive, but I did progress through the years to niche material, and frequently wasted time that I did not have by watching porn. In my relationships, I have noticed both frequent PIED and a loss of attraction to my partner that correlated with periods of heavy porn use. I am less affectionate, less caring, and less inclined to feel like I want to commit to my partner long-term when I use porn heavily.

    I have bipolar II, and have recently noticed that my frequency of porn use goes up in the periods of time where I feel "over-activated" or hypomanic. I also tend to use porn to cope with periods of heavy depression, as it breaks me out of feeling hopeless by triggering reward-seeking behaviour. It gets especially bad when I am sick or injured, and unable to get the endorphins and happy feelings from other sources like exercise.

    I started planning my reboot last week. I study neuroscience at university, and I was working on a project that involved male mating preferences. I started wondering how pornography might impact men's (largely unconscious) evolved mating behaviours and strategies. In many animals, there is a trade-off between long-term and short-term mating strategy that depends in part on the availability of potential mates. I figured that the multitude of attractive, receptive potential partners that we are exposed to in a porn viewing session might be interpreted by our unconscious mating drives as a reason to use short-term mating strategy only. I will link the research that led me to think in this way in a later post.

    In any case, I feel the pull of porn, and I need to stop wasting my time, clouding my mind, and sabotaging my relationships. My plan is to go without PM. I will also create a journal in the 25-29 section that I will update at least weekly, possibly with some more brief commentary on current research into the effects of porn.

    Thanks for reading. Get after it!
     
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  2. Oct 1, 2019 #2
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    Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  3. Oct 2, 2019 #3
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    Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

    Then secondly I just strongly advise you to be active on your profile(as there quite a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

    People (are beginning to) love communicating in the profilesection..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal. Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys. We could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

    Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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