Newcomer - Hello Gentlemen

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by whitehouse, Feb 19, 2019.

  1. whitehouse

    whitehouse Fapstronaut

    Good Day everyone,

    So the introductory message that I got explained that it would be a good idea for me to introduce myself to you guys so that's what I'm doing.

    I am 30 years old and have been really struggling with compulsive porn viewing and masturbation off and on since I was about 18. I have also been dealing with other addictions during this period of time (Opiates, alcohol, gambling, and sex in general with both hookers and civilians) and for the most part these have been the issues that I have seen as having the most impact on my life and well-being. Lets just say it has been a cluster fuck of dysfunction.

    I am at this point 'clean' form all my other vices for a period of 6 months and 10 days but have realized that PMO has become my new obsession. I have always viewed it as the lesser evil of addictions but it appears to be wreaking similar havoc in my life. I guess it is just another way to get out of my own head. It has impacted my relations with others and women in particular as I find my anxiety levels spiking.

    I feel like I'm living in a constant haze of anhedonia and boredom with porn and jerking off being just about the only thing that I "enjoy". If i'm honest this has been a problem in my life for a long time but it has just been overshadowed by other issues. Now that it is front and center I cannot help but face it for what it is, an addiction like any other.

    I am abstaining from sex and relationships for a period of 1 year as part of my recovery from drugs and alcohol so I intend going for an initial hard reboot of 3 months.

    I'm looking forward to getting well and getting to know everybody and any advice or guidance would be greatly appreciated!
  2. oretna

    oretna Fapstronaut

    Hi, good to have you here! You have come to the right place! I think you want to wander a little about here for the first thing... Welcome!
  3. Welcome, whitehouse! Sounds like you are well on your way to freeing yourself of your chains. There are many helpful people and posts on this site, so make the most of it! Sharing our struggles with those on this site really helps everyone with their own struggles...
    Praying for your success, brother!
  4. Welcome brother..
    ... yeh, I've notcied the more I PMO the longer I stay in that hazy state of anhedonia and boredom, it'll go after a while of NoFap.
  5. The Free Bird

    The Free Bird Fapstronaut

    Hi, welcome to the community

    I would recommend you to stay in touch with members and read their success stories. You may also learn tricks to avoid the short-term pleasure and to face the temptations.

    Be AWARE of your habits and control what you see and what/who you spend your time with.

    It's also important to limit the usage of social media. In addition, never be free! Use your free time as much as possible and do sports, exercise, attend classes, etc.

    This video contains everything that you need to know about porn addiction. Lastly, here is a collection of ways to deal with the urges which worked great for me.

    ֍ You got this my friend ֍
  6. Hello and welcome to the community :)
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  7. Welcome to the community whitehouse, wish you all the best :)
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  8. Hey welcome to the NoFap forum : )

    It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:

    Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button / Set up your day counter / Rebooting Resources/ About NoFap/ Support NoFap

    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

    Then secondly I just advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

    Theres a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal. Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and give some help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys. We could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

    Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal/log (in the appropriate section for you) and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
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  9. whitehouse

    whitehouse Fapstronaut

    Thanks Bud. I particularly enjoyed that video. So well articulated.
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  10. whitehouse

    whitehouse Fapstronaut

    Thanks man,
    I appreciate it.

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