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It takes a long time to develop a proper frame of mind to quit. No one is an expert at it, everyone comes with a different approach. The good news is you are trying. This is why I believe it is useless to count the number of streaks, days, or whatever, because these things can come to a halt before we are even aware of it happening. Has happened to me a lot and I am not out of the woods, nor do I ever expect to be. One day at a time and a genuine effort.
I never made any serious strides until I confided in a therapist that I trusted. And it was nearly 10 years before I allowed this to occur - much too long of a wait. But that's me.

 

Actually, quitting is easy. I've done it hundreds of times. (Hah?)

I know it's easy for others to say, but don't get down on yourself. Focus on staying in the moment. That's where you have the control to make the decision not to look at something.

I recommend you set a day counter. For me it makes sense that if I'm not keeping score, I'm not in the game.

As far as how long you've been hooked and what sh*t you've found yourself looking at, you are not even close to being alone. Not to minimize what you're feeling, but keep the faith.

Best wishes.

 

It's already a big step for you to register on the site, but I'll tell you that it's really not easy but it's very possible, I'll appoint you to seek books, lectures, really develop, because it's a difficult battle

 

With each attempt, add something new into the mix until you find something that sticks, a re-enforcing good habit or whatever it is.

If you've not tried committing to keeping a journal on here, and committing to writing in it daily until you're out of the woods, that's a good start. Most journals on here quickly gain a small following, and in my experience at least that was the little bit of extra accountability I needed to take this attempt seriously.

Go back and analyse the point of reset. Was it a culmination of a stressful day? (harder to solve), or was it merely carelessness of being caught up in the moment after watching some arousing material? The latter is a lot easier IMO, that's just discipline. The former is the awkward one - it makes a massive difference what your overall state of mind is during this journey. A bit depressed and down about how things are going in general? It's going to be hard to find the motivation to keep this up on-top of everything else.

 

Damn dude, porn is making your mind toxic. You really need to clean it. Just stay away from porn and your mind will get cleaner.

 

Okay, you realize it was a really bad thing to do. But do you see how porn is more a symptom of the problem? I mean, there is something, or perhaps a variety of things going on in your life that send you back to porn or porn related thoughts/feelings/behaviors again and again.
Begin figuring out who you want to be. You obviously do not want to be a porn guy.