Hey guys, I have been writing some threads that a lot are finding useful, and I really want to post this because it's something that makes me so mad which is the phrase: "Nice guys finish last". You can check other posts here: Social anxiety: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/the-harsh-truth-about-social-anxiety.153354/ Approaching women: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/this-will-help-you-a-lot.153742/ Now, back to the main topic, the reason that phrase makes me so mad is because it's not true, it's just an excuse. An excurse for what? For not taking action, for being afraid, for not leaving your comfort zone, and mostly to say it's not your fault you're single. We've all heard someone say that girls have been ruined for nice guys by jerks. It's not 100% false, but it's no excuse for you not to take action. Hot or pretty girls get hitted by jerks a thousand times and they do get sick of THOSE guys, which is why they tend to be a little more reserved or suspicious of the next guy in line. She is not unavailable, she is just testing if you're one of the many. If you're not a jerk, you DO have a chance being a nice guy. The reason most guys think that phrase is true is because it's easier to blame women or other men, rather than blame themselves for not taking action, for not having game, for being single.. The truth is, it's not being nice what prevents you from having game, because there's a lot of nice guys out there that have game. The reason there are jerks who got game is because if you're one you're provoking a feeling inside the girl, although a lot of people may hate you, you're gonna be loved by someone too. On the other side, if you're being the nice guy you're awakening no feelings, which is why they don't love or hate you, they just like you like a friend. I've come down to a list of 6 reasons I think nice guys don't have game and end up using that phrase to blame the world instead of themselves: 1. Inability to take action This is something I talked about in the thread about approaching women. This is because of two main reasons: overthinking and putting all your eggs in a basket. Overthinkers can't take action and talk to pretty ladies because they think of all the bad scenarios that could happen and stress themselves about things that haven't happened yet. They usually imagine how the girl is going to react (usually a bad way) and they decide not to instead, but how do you know the way she's gonna react if you don't know a freaking thing about her? Psychologists suggest that when you imagine how other people think you're just projecting all of your bad attitudes in them, so you're not actually thinking how she may react, but you're thinking of how YOU would react being in her position. Putting all your eggs in one basket is putting yourself up to disappointment, because you don't know the girl and if you're thinking she's perfect or she is your only target, you don't want any other girl just her... You don't take action because you know if she rejects you, you won't be able to accept it. My advice: turn off your mind. For real guys don't set yourself up for dissapointment, act and see what happens. Imagine you see this girl daily and you have talked to her a couple of times and she's been nice, then you start imagining how your life would be with her and then you don't want to ask her out or anything like that because you're afraid she might say no because you're already thinking about loving her when you have barely spoken to her! 2. Inability to be straightforward This is a very good reason. You see, we guys are idiots. We think that because you like the girl she'll know you like her and will fall in love with you. Most guys like to play it slow, to the point where girls get bored of them because they never let out their true intentions and play stupid mind games that don't work. My advice: you see a girl you like, go talk to her and if it goes well ask her out right away. Many guys really don't realize how girls love that you have balls enough to show your true intentions and ask them out. Let her know (without saying it, obviously) that you're a guy with a penis that knows what he wants and you're confident enough to go find more girls if she rejects you, you must come from a position from abundance. 3. Inability to accept rejection If you don't ever want to be rejected by girls here's the advice: don't approach them, don't leave your house, never try to get game. If you're reading this post, I'm guessing you've been friendzoned and even though you are the nicest man in the world you can't explain to yourself why she only sees you as a friend. This friend of mine always seemed to me as a ladies man, he always talked about sex and that kinda stuff. One day I asked him his magic number and he said 5. He only had been with 5 women and he is in all truth an attractive guy. The thing is, no one, absolutely NO ONE gets 0 rejections, you have to be able to accept rejection. Not overthinking and not putting all your eggs in one basket actually helps you to avoid taking rejection as something personal. Girls don't have to like you just because you approach them and it's not personal because they don't know you. Think about this: of all the girls you know, how many do you like? Say you know 50 women and you would have sex with 30 of them and you'll want to be in a relationship with 6 of them. Ok, so if you can choose which kind of girls you like, why can't girls? My advice: accept the fact that being nice isn't the only reason a girl would like you or not, accept the fact that you have more traits than just being nice, and accept the fact that girls can pick who they want to date as much as you can. 4. Inability to see the big picture I wanted to have the stats of my city to see how many fish were actually in the sea, just were I live. It turns out there's at least 300,000 women my age in my city. I don't think I even know 200 of them. This is connected with rejection, which means if you're rejected by one girl, there's 299,999 others you can try to get with. Rejection by one girl isn't the end of the world, keep trying and you'll find what you're looking for. My advice: pretty obvious, isn't it? Come from a position from abundance, that girl isn't the only girl in the world. 5. Being too nice This is the only reason I can think of why girls reject you because of being nice. There's nice and too nice. If the girl you like asks you for anything and you get her anything she wants and always compliment her, you always put a smile and never say anything not nice, she probably won't like you. The reason is, if you're too nice and please every single one of her wishes, you're putting yourself beneath her (and not in a good sexual way). The reason is, if you always try to be nice you're just pretending to be something you're not, she won't see the real side of you. That other side outside of being happy, the one where you have a life outside her, the one where you're not always available, the one where you're not hers to play with. If you're too nice means you basically don't respect yourself as much as you respect her, which is why it's unattractive. My advice: don't start being a jerk instead of being too nice. One of the things that makes a relationship work is that both parties have self respect and love for themselves that they don't have to be codependent of the other. Give yourself a place, don't filter your words so you always say something nice, be real, tease her or criticize her without being a jerk. Be nice in the way of being a charming gentleman but don't be her bitch. 6. Believing that the perfect girl will just show up If there's any Batman fan out there, I know you'll love this quote from Harvey Dent: "You make your own luck". I believe that luck doesn't come from sitting out and doing nothing while the universe does all the work and it puts the girl of your dreams right in front of you and she's madly in love with you. Luck comes from effort, you don't even have to call it luck, call it prize or reward for all your efforts in having game, in approaching girls even if you're afraid, in getting back out there if it doesn't work with one girl, etc. My advice: go out there, try all of the things you've just learned, get turned down sometimes and always keep trying. You'll eventually be able to see the big picture. Hope this helps you, good luck to all of you!