I'm 18 years old and literally have no confidence around girls. I'm pretty sure masturbating has a big part to play in this. In places like clubs when going out at night, some of my friends quite easily start dancing with girls and you also see people just grabbing women and trying to get them. I don't have the comfidence at all, I did approach one girl a few months ago and was dancing with her. This only came about because i approached a group of girls with a group of my friends so it kind of worked better. My friends went straight in for the kiss , whereas I was dancing with this girl for like 15 minutes before even thinking about that. I didn't even make a move before I find this hard to do. I think clubs would not be my best way of getting girls. I know a couple of people who I don't get how they got a girlfriend. One of them treats his gf shit, calls her names like " wench, hoe, bitch" all the time ... And girls like shit like this? And the other I know for a fact masturbates all the time ( he has admitted this before) you can also tell he does by the way he acts. He hates going out of the house and Meeting people as he'd rather be at home masturbating, he hates interacting with people at all costs and when I was friends with him he couldn't even bother with his closest friends. I really don't understand what girls like... They seem to go for guys who act like idiots and that don't treat them with any respect. Whereas people like me who are the "nice guys" who know how to treat people get discarded . I don't get it ahaha! I know I'm still young but it would still be nice to have a relationship, I haven't had a girlfriend with around 3/4 years now. This is what causes me to masturbate, I have no way of relieving sexual tension as I don't have a partner, so it's kinda inevitable that I'm going to masturabte, which I don't want to.