No Desire For Women Or Sex Cant get erection !

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by onurexs, May 24, 2020.

  1. onurexs

    onurexs Fapstronaut

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    I am 21 years old.
    I started masturbating at the age of 16.
    Before the age of 16 I always had an erection when I saw a naked woman.
    But I didn't enjoy masturbation because I couldn't ejaculate while doing.
    One day I tried to masturbate while watching porn and for the first time I had an orgasm.
    I masturbated to porn since 16 to 21 years old.
    I'm not a virgin.I had a lot of sex with prostitutes
    My erections were very good. If I was going to have sex with a girl, I would have an erection while I was next to each other. I had sex 5 times even without losing erection. But I realized that I was extremely scared when talking to normal life attractive women because I saw them as sex objects and I wanted to have sex with every normal attractive woman I saw
    So I didn't have normal girlfriends I was just friends with men, because I saw almost most women as sex objects.I decided to make nofab because I was afraid to talk even to girls who like me

    Started Nofab 7 months ago
    I was doing hardmode in the first 2 months and the results were as follows;
    Libido was very high. Almost every woman showed interest. My fear towards women gradually decreased. My voice got thicker, my eyes became man, testosterone increased.I think that nofab works. Every woman I wanted started to show interest in me. I started thinking that I could have sex with every woman I wanted with nofab.

    After the 3rd month, my desire for women is gone. I tried watching porn again but I couldn't even have an erection! No morning wood or random erection No libido, all masculinity charisma is gone. My eyes became childish.No desire for women or sex.First time in my life Naked female body does not erect me. I started to nofab to talk women comfortably but now I'm not interested I can only get an erection just by touching my penis.I opened porn to improve but I couldn't get an erection than I started touching my penis to get erection while watching porn

    I'm on the 7th month now I still have to touch my penis to get an erection while watching porn
    I just want to be an erection to porn and women. I don't care if I'm afraid to talk to women
     

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  2. Bonhart

    Bonhart Fapstronaut

    It sounds to me like you entered a flatline. This is a period where you lose libido and feel tired, among other things. The flatline is part of the process, but, the duration is different for everyone. Embrace the flatline, don't panic. You will overcome it.
     
  3. onurexs

    onurexs Fapstronaut

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    Bro Naked female body does not erect me now İs this normal in Flatline ?
     
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  4. Bonhart

    Bonhart Fapstronaut

    Yes, during flatline, you kind of feel like an asexual person... 0 interest in sex, 0 libido, etc.
     
  5. Bonhart

    Bonhart Fapstronaut

    I suggest you read about the flatline. There are plenty of topics here regarding the subject.

    I understand your anxiety, I've suffered from it too.

    Last year I was dating a woman (at that time I didnt know about Nofap, but I had quit PMO for 2 weeks), and after we had sex, I entered the flatline. It felt like my sex drive was gone. I suddenly wasn't interested in her, or in porn. Just like you, even watching porn couldn't get me erected unless I touched myself. Then I found Nofap and decide to try hard mode. After a two month streak, I found myself sexyally aroused while reading a novel that had an erotic scene. I even had a wet dream after I went to sleep. First wet dream of my life.

    I suggest you keep abstaining from the PMO cycle, it may take time, but you will regain your ability to feel sexually aroused. Almost everyone here goes through a flatline.

    If you have any doubt, feel free to ask me, I may not answer fast, but I will certainly find a moment to answer.
     
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  6. Yeah I agree with @Bonhart - sounds like you are in a flatline. Enjoy it. See this as time to just heal and focus on yourself.

    Everything will be normal after the flatline ends. In my case, my sex drive roared back stronger. My erections were much better after I left flatline. It can be too strong for some men, so be sure to just rest right now. Do workouts. Do read, watch movies, etc. It's like being in a vacation. I wouldn't mind going back to a flatline to heal.
     
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  7. heretoheal

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    I'm 9 days into NoFap, I guess I went into flatline right away, I think I had an urge the second or third day, but I've had not strong urges after that. I do have strong morning woods and sexual dreams lately, but I don't have spontaneous erections at all (I think I never had them in my life, actually), it's all new to me in the sense that I always went to porn to have an erection.
    I have no problem with avoiding porn so far, I know that's not an option anymore, I feel that's something which was part of my life during a long time but I don't want it or relate to it anymore (craving is gone); the same happened to me when I started eating more healthily, the "old food" I used to feed my body with felt so damaging. However, I feel curious and sometimes anxious about how sexual arousal will show up for me from now on, 'cause I never knew or experienced any other way but getting aroused by porn.
     
  8. onurexs

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    @Bonhart @seaguy44 Thank you My Big bros I appreciate your answers in these bad days
    I want to tell my current situation:The sensitivity of my penis increased well,Its funny but My penis gets hard when it touches somewhere. Sometimes I have an erection while sitting But this is not sexual arousal,because penis touch somewhere. If I touch 30sec I can erect good without looking porn.But I'm still not sexually aroused.I see Women body and Male body looks same.All I want is to see the female body sexy and be sexually aroused.I can easily have an erection and orgasm.İf I just masturbate and stay away from porn for a while can I fix it or just do hard mode ?
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  9. Camelon

    Camelon Fapstronaut

    Bro im in day 285 & still flatlining
    Don"t worry
    Time shall heal that
    I was addict for 14 yrs & i know at least 2 yrs are required to fully recover....
     
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  10. Bonhart

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    No problem, dude. To answer your question... I would try Hard Mode for at least 90 days, and after those 90 days, maybe try to be with a woman and see what happens. But that's what I would do, maybe someone else will do something different, it all depends on the results you want to get.
     
  11. onurexs

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    When you abstain pmo for a longer time You will experience your penis erect just by touching somewhere
     
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  12. onurexs

    onurexs Fapstronaut

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    Bro Can you have an erection to the naked woman or Pmo right now?
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  13. Bonhart

    Bonhart Fapstronaut

    Keep up the good fight!
     
  14. Bonhart

    Bonhart Fapstronaut

    Regarding the PMO aspect of this question, for the last 55 days I have not masturbated and I have not seen porn. However, last week, while browsing social media, I stumbled upon a post from an open lesbian kissing her partner... due to my history with lesbian porn, I got an erection, but not hard enough for sexual intercourse. I quickly dismissed the post to keep myself from indulging in the memories of lesbian porn. The last time I relapsed, however, I was able to get semi erect by watching porn, but needed to to touch myself to reach 100%. Now, please, do not test yourself with porn. Avoid porn.

    As far as naked women go, I cannot say, its been a year since I last saw a naked woman in real life. The thing with porn is, it messes up your perception of a normal female body. After years of getting used to the bodies of female pornstars, it gets kind of difficult to achive an erection with a normal woman.

    I know this are not the answers you are looking for, but I hope it helps.
     
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  15. onurexs

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    I am talking women right now She ask me Am I asexual ? Wtf Girls actually feel it your sexuality.Flatline make me asexual Lol
     
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  16. I doubt you are asexual because you were sexual before. Asexuals from what I understand ALWAYS have been asexual. They never are able to be attracted to sex. You are attracted to women, it's just that right now the sexual energy is muted SO you can heal and after the healing, that's when you'll be the best man you can be.
     
  17. ewerson18

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    How old are you?
     
  18. Camelon

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  19. onurexs

    onurexs Fapstronaut

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    I understand Asexuals born asexual But now I am look like a child now. I can erect touching myself but women dont turn me on actually girl sense it.This makes me like asexual.Hope this problem goes away.
     

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  20. tokiooo

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    How long after quitting porn your flatline started? Are you in hard mode from beginning?
     

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