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No libido

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Andrew Watson, Mar 18, 2019.

  1. Mar 18, 2019 #1
    Andrew Watson

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    I started wondering about my libido when i heard about nofap. I started pmo when i was 13 im 23 now. I have never had a libido, i never had an urge to get a girlfriend at all or sex. Im pretty sure im not asexual. My use has always been daily PMO sometimes 2x a day and i never spent more than 5 mins masturbating but I probably spent like 15-20 mins searching for the perfect video. My question is: can that little amout of pmo have caused my non existent libido and lack of ambition/motivation? I have no trauma or thoughts that cause discomfort enough to want to escape them. I honestly mastubated for the pleasure.
     
    Andrew Watson, Mar 18, 2019
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  2. Mar 19, 2019 #2
    maz20

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    Well, not exactly...

    You still have libido, but it's just that this whole time---instead of developing a "sex" drive, you've basically been developing a "fap" drive. In other words, your desire for sexual gratification is virtually completely associated with fapping. And it's actually pretty much cases like these IMO where nofap would be most useful.

    Basically, to get a more real "libido" per se in your case you'd essentially have to physically and mentally unlink fapping as "the" method/embodiment of your pursuit of sexual gratification. In other words, you want to have it as "merely just a means" of sexual gratification, but not necessarily the means/embodiment of what essentially sexual gratification is. This is where NoFap would be perfect--you'd essentially & eventually be forcing yourself to seek sexual gratification in real life, gaining a more real libido pursuing actual sex with women.

    **Edit: forgot to mention, ideally zero porn for best results too
     
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    maz20, Mar 19, 2019
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  3. Mar 19, 2019 #3
    BigOne79

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    I think what you say is spot on but PIED symptoms make it hard to have the Sox drive for some people. I have kicked the porn hanit albeit sometimes there is a picture that pops up when using a phone or tablet. The physical act of giving up fapping was difficult, like your body was driving you mad for not satisfying you. Problem is now my fantasies are taking over bit I have not fapped though.

    I have to ask the my reboot is not complete yet when pursuing sex but feel nothing in the act..
     
    BigOne79, Mar 19, 2019
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