No longer pied, but can't get excited by the real thing!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Ali91, Sep 13, 2021.

  1. Ali91

    Ali91 Fapstronaut

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    Hi. First I would like to tell everyone that pied is real and thank God it's reversible. At least it did for me.

    I've been with a partner for the last 10 days and I'm more than happy with my performance.

    I can get erections and have sex 1-2 times daily. But what bothers me is that im not interested yet with my partner. My mind always thinks of some porno scene when we have sex.
    I know it's because of my PMO history. Could this get any better? Have anyone else had this issue before? When you no longer pied but cant get excited yet? Thanks.
     
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    I'm not sure I fully understand what your issue is. You find that when you're with your partner you can only stay hard when you think about pornographic scenes? Or you find that when you're with your partner you only want to do things you've seen from pornography?
     
  3. Ali91

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    I mean pornography used to flare up fireworks in my brain from excitement. But when I'm finally with a girl I can't have the sane level of joy that I used to have with pornography. I can have erections and full intercourse. But not as joyful as my previous PMO's
     
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    Yeah this is definitely true, but I think it's because sex is a different form of pleasure than PMO. When we PMO it's about raw stimulation and so that is going to be way easier to get those highs than sex. However, what sex has is the immense highs of emotional connection, intimacy, and self-transcendence that PMO can never get. It's very difficult to attain those highs though which is why PMO and primitive sex are so much more addictive than this kind of sex, and is also why most people don't even know that the sex I'm talking about even exists.

    To really get to that transcendent sex, you have to start taking things slower. Go for internal sensitivity rather than external intensity.

    A good starting book is, "The Multi-Orgasmic Man," by Mantak Chia. There is some spiritual stuff there that may not be your thing, but if you can get past that then the the actual techniques he suggests can work wonders. If spirituality is your thing then it'll be even better haha.

    All the best.
     
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  5. I have the exact same problem, but I think it has to do with the level of focus you give to your partner if your mind is somewhere else it becomes hard to be more present and actually feel the moment, try to spend more time with her without having sex just intimacy, you’ll begin to desire her more after some time. I think it’s more of a mental issue as you need to rewire your brain to get used to real people, I mean finding them sexy attractive instead of porn.
     

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