No masturbation after injury

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by iMecTO, Nov 12, 2019.

  1. iMecTO

    iMecTO New Fapstronaut

    I was having so much sex with my partner every day that after using a cock ring and the "blue pill." I bruised the head of my penis. This has been going on for a few months as we got back to it when it started to get better and then did too much. Now I went back to starting all over waiting for it to heal 18 days ago. I will need to wait a few more weeks.

    I've never experienced this before and I've abused my body a lot. I have to not masturbate and let this heal. At first, I was trying to find other ways that I could do it that would be easier which just prolonged things. Now I have learned that it has to be hands off for an extended period of time. I need it to heal so I can have a sex life again. This has kind of been forced on me.

    My biggest problem is that I take an ADHD drug that increases dopamine which increases my sex drive that the urge to orgasm becomes very compulsive. It's like at times always aware of my penis because I feel so turned on, walking down the street, watching the news. This is what is making this so difficult.

    I made it 11 days and then cheated and found a way to orgasm without getting hard and a fairly soft touch. That was six days ago and I reset the clock. After a week I start to go crazy. If I were single as well that would help. I have not looked at porn as that just sends my "horniness" for a lack of another word into super overdrive and the desire to orgasm becomes super compulsive. I cannot even imagine what 30 days would be like. I need a few more weeks for this to heal and then after that, I have to be so careful to fight the compulsive desire and not M every day, sometimes for a couple of hours if I'm bored.

    I also have delayed ejaculation. It is partly from an antidepressant, but I've reduced it to be very low. It's still pretty much impossible to orgasm with penetrative sex. I don't know how much chronic masturbation plays a role. I do know now after abstaining as long as 11 days I feel way more sensitive. Periods of semen retention maybe the answer. Don't masturbate and wait for sex instead.
  2. bfdet

    bfdet Fapstronaut

    M, especially with P or especially if you are "edging" will only make your DE worse. Here is some information about edging - which is what you are very likely doing if you are "M-ing" for "a couple of hours if I'm bored".

    Short version: DO NOT EDGE ! EVER !

    Edging is really bad. Edging trains your body and mind to expect and to need prolonged, often very intense, stimulation in order to reach O. That level of mental and physical stimulation doesn't happen with PIV relations. Guess what: when you attempt PIV, your body and mind don't receive the kind of stimulation it needs to O, instead your body responds with PIED and DE. Not good.

    Edging does NOTHING good, so stop. Easier said than done, but it is certainly NOT impossible and very much worth every bit of effort required to stop this damaging activity.

    For more information about edging, have a look at:


    And regarding rings...
    Be careful with rings, especially rigid rings (metal ones) since they can create trauma as you've already discovered. If you insist on playing with rings, use "soft" ones and limit your time wearing them to only a few minutes or less. It would likely be best to avoid them all together !

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.

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