No Motivation

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Kimvin, Oct 5, 2019.

  1. Kimvin

    Kimvin New Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys
    First and for most, am glad for been a part of this community. Am a 24 year old youth who has had no sex experience ever. Well let me start from the beginning, I started watching porn when I was 12 and started masturbating at the same time. For me it was something new and exciting. Mind you am a shy short guy who has ADHD. I continued chocking the monkey, and to a point would never have the courage to approach a beautiful women and have a string conversation with her. My fear for women has made me so dull that I beat myself up for this. I look at my friends and see how they ard successful in the dating world, and wish that I could be one of them. I have been able to try and talk to women, and even gotten their numbers, but nothing ever bears friut. Sometimes I just feel like I wilk be like this for ever, and wish that I hadn't started it in the beginning. Every time I come across a women that I want to approach, I think of all the negative things that could happen, and just freeze and lose my opportunity, which has happened for years and years now. I try to quit masturbation, but I relapse after two three days, or after a month of hardcore. Someone please advice me on what to do, since its coming in my way of becomiy who I have wanted to become, an entrepreneur.
     
  2. Helpneeder

    Helpneeder Fapstronaut

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    Hey Bro. Im Fred 19. Just don't stop keep on moving. Soon, will be the breakthrough in your life. Someday, once you become an entrepreneur and established your own company I hope you will hire me. Hehehe
     
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  3. Kimvin

    Kimvin New Fapstronaut

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    Sure will man, and thanks
     
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  4. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  5. internetpioneer

    internetpioneer Fapstronaut

    Hi there!
    The only advice I can give you is to work hard towards knowing yourself - it is a good idea to start a journal in the forum of your age group, also to read what others are going through and to find an accountability partner - the origin of most addictions to porn (and any addiction for that matter) is emotional. PMO (porn masturbation orgasm) is mechanism to cope with overwhelming emotions, rejection from women, alienation and isolation, traumas, you name it... but it is a sucky mechanism: it leaves you numb, with shame and in a vicious circle (you need to be more numb to overcome the shame). Read everything you can about porn addiction, here you will find plenty of resources, understand how it works in your mind: what is a trigger, how to recognise them and avoid them... how leaving porn will help you to develop a healthier lifestyle in general.

    There are no silver bullets with women, but you can work on yourself, your self confidence and esteem, then women might come or not (I promise they will come ;) ), but first it's you, get to be the person you want to be.
     
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  6. Kimvin

    Kimvin New Fapstronaut

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    Hey man, really appreciate what you've told me, and I understand that the journey is filled with lots of ups and down, but I am will to walk it and emerge victorious. It will take me awhile, but I have to loose.
     
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  7. internetpioneer

    internetpioneer Fapstronaut

    We are all counting on each other and we believe in each other.
    Go for it!
     

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