NO PMO... but w/ sex does it count? Also what about the type of relationship w/ said sex partner?

So first things first, I'm new here, so to get complete context to my situation, please see my introduction post here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...eing-trapped-porn-addiction-and-nofap.146724/

That being said, if you choose not to read it, I'll give you context in a way briefer format - I resorted to porn and became addicted as an escape from dating due to fears on how dating in NYC could impact my long-term goals. I have always watched porn while in a relationship, single in between relationships, or casually dating, but the frequency of my viewings increased when I was single. Most recently, I've reached 14 days without porn or masturbation, but not orgasm. Here is where my questions lie:

1) I'm still struggling to maintain a solid erection for long (10+ mins for sexual intercourse), but I'm also at the very beginning of my journey (14 days in) - sometimes, I find myself grabbing my dick to masturbate to the thought or memory of a woman I've had sex with, whether actively engaged with that woman still or reliving a real memory from the past, but then I stop myself. Would the act of reliving a memory almost constitute as porn and thus hinder me from rewiring my brain? These aren't pixelated images, but I feel like it may be similar, especially for the women who I'm not longer seeing/having intercourse with. Also, I never get to the act of actually masturbating but I do end up touching myself (not edging or masturbating) for a couple seconds, and then I stop - I'm not sure if that means I've technically abstained from masturbation. I'm getting to the point of not even doing that, but this usually happens when I'm about to urinate and I grab my dick or I get an erection that feels uncomfortable against my clothes while sitting down so I stand up briefly to shift around my boxers

2) Am I really 14 days into PMO if I'm having orgasms and ejaculating but only with real women?

3) Do you think having a friends-with-benefits (FWB) situation is more detrimental than beneficial since my brain knows that even the intimate touch isn't 100% as intimate as it could potentially be, since we will never be a real couple? Me and my FWB have a really dope friendship but it is nothing more than what it is, and I respect her boundaries when she's spending time with her BF and his family.

4) Should I even be ejaculating even if I'm having sex with a woman? I know there's no black/white answer, so feel free to share colored/gray area responses based on your personal experiences

6 [Bonus Question for any ladies reading]) If someone couldn't get hard to have sex with you and you were a very horny woman, assuming you didn't understand the individual had issues with porn addiction, how would you perceive their lack of an erection? Especially if you can tell said man is interested in you on some level? Just curious, because I had sex unexpectedly twice yesterday for the first time with someone who I really didn't expect it from AND I actually like her so far so I would like to keep having sex with her, but I'm going to explain my nofap journey with her today before it escalates to sex and I want to make sure I get my point across clearly without any confusion so that we can possibly consider dating and a relationship in the future. I'm completely prepared for this conversation; truthfully, I'll probably have it before I ever see a response to this thread, but I figured I would still ask just to get some perspective going forward.

Based on my questions (and context of my situation if you read my intro post), to anyone reading, please take the open floor - do you think I should be having sex during my NO PMO journey? I honestly think given my current circumstance that I can easily achieve the 90 day mark, only because it's been increasingly easy to let go of masturbation and I haven't viewed porn since October and I still get to enjoy orgasms with real women. I just hope that I am privileged to enjoy as much sex as I'm capable of with the 3 women I'm currently seeing for now (1 open relationship, 2 kinda dating minus the actual dates part) until I'm physically and mentally rejuvenated, because that makes this no PMO process 1000000% easier. Thank you in advance to everyone for taking your time to read my posts and offer your support. I look forward to one day using my story to inspire people who join this blog in 2018 and thereafter...!