No PMO until I see my partner again!

Hey! I have been in a wonderful relationship for the past few years, but lately we've had to spend some time apart and I began relapsing when on my own. I want to understand why, and most importantly, I want to start a new streak to stop myself from any more relapse.

The thing is that it makes no sense especially to watch porn. I find my partner super sexy and normally I want to have sex with her all the freaking time. However, in the last year her libido reduced a lot, I think for at least two reasons: 1) She didn't deal with confinement and covid well, she likes travelling and doing stuff, and this is hard on her. 2) Our relationship got more and more serious and deeper, we recently got a place together, decorated it, and honestly it was super stressful and hard work. Also, in the last 12 months we lived apart some months due to work commitments, which is going to continue now and then. So in short, the love and feeling is there, commitment and investment in the relationship is there, but we just don't have as much sex!

I don't see porn as a moral problem: It just drains energy. It makes me think about some nameless models instead of my girlfriend. It wastes some hours every week that could be spent actually relaxing (like, sleeping), or improving the place we live in. Porn is bullshit.

So my goal for this thread is a no PMO streak for about 3 weeks, until I see her again!

 

Cravings are there but so far under control. It has a lot to do with being on my own at home all the time (my partner is abroad for a few weeks), thank you lockdown. In normal times would have just done a daytrip to do some touristing / eating out.

Why I think the idea of NoFap is very good, this community is not for me. Too many people here get into moral or spiritual discussion very quickly - I am not a fan. Though I'd love to be proven wrong.

 

Yes I have, and of course scientific approaches are not spiritual. Yet many people in the forum take very spiritual approaches, which is not for me.

Sadly I slipped. It was a tough week in which I took had little time for myself, and yesterday night I broke, staying up late working on my non-PMO hobby (I had deprived myself for too long) and sadly also doing a quick PMO session. I hadn't slept well the night before, was weak, didn't make it. Dammit!

Now must get back on my feet. I have a week with lots of work ahead of me which requires a lot of strength and discipline. I started my work week today (exceptionally). Will have to be on top of my game this week, sleep regularly, rock it. After a week that went chaotically and ended in PMO, this week I have the possibility to be organised and keep things balanced.