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No Porn-Masturbation-Still Having Sex.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by dannylomora, Dec 1, 2016.

  1. dannylomora

    dannylomora Fapstronaut

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    Just wanted an opinion from the guys here. I have given up Porn/fapping. It's been 25 days, which is my longest streak since the 13 years that I began with this addiction. I am so proud of myself for that, guess something finally just clicked that my mind, body, and soul could only take so much. I have posted that my addiction was as bad as anybody will have, ever. I honestly believe that. The withdraws have been minimal, some temptation here and there, but clarity has won out and I have no intention of doing it again. NONE. My question is, I have a FWB I see and we are still having sex, but I have porn induced ED. I hate to get to graphic, but we do everything in bed. I'm usually hard when we begin, but it will only last a few minutes, but she makes me hard with oral and hand jobs, or I make myself hard while I perform oral on here. Then we have sex again, the sex is ok, not great. But sometimes when we begin my erections are porn actor erections, but they just don't last.

    I have read that sexuality and intimacy are an ok thing, a good thing during a reboot. That the touch, feel of a women helps as we begin to rewire our brain to real human sensation. The guy who developed the website "yourbrainonporn" says that intimacy during recovery reboot should be welcomed. But honestly I don't even want to call this a reboot, to me it's leaving a life behind and starting my life over as a regular functioning man when it comes to my habits, sexuality, and personality. But of course I look forward to being able to perform like a man should be, like I did before this addiction. I know what's it's like to have great sex, to feel drained from sex, to sit there with your partner and think, sex is amazing. I had great sex before my porn induced ED. Just wondering what are the thoughts and opinions of the board members. Thanks
     
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  2. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    My opinion will be one of many differing opinions but since you've asked, I'll share mine. I would suggest a total halt on any sexual activity. Give your body and mind the necessary time to unlearn the bad habits you have taught it and it will naturally wire itself correctly assuming there aren't any lasting effects for your past mistakes. You won't find that out if don't give it time to heal. I understand you want to keep having sex but if you really think about it, it's your (and our) want to have what you want when you want it that had you (and us) where you are now.

    Take a sex hiatus. You won't die by going a few weeks to months without sex. Since she is only a FWB, she will be alright.
     
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  3. Frühlingstimme

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    I too think you should do a hard mode for a while and maybe even avoid karezza. Give your penis a time to recover and I think you will have much more stamina.

    By what you described, it can be because the sexual act with your girl is already lasting a long time. Don't take porn stars as a reference because most of them use drugs and inject papaverin to have lasting erections.
     
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  5. JasonIsReal

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    The fastest way to recover is to abstain a decent amount of time, this is true. But there's a catch. After you rebooted, you need to rewire your brain with sex with a woman. This will also takes time again. If you conpletely quit PM but only do sex with a woman (hookers, no feelings and other type of sex also counts as porn) you are rebooting and rewire your brain with a woman at the same time. In the long run it would have taken just as long. So yes, go for it. Jist stay away from PM forever and you will be good. Just keep in mind that you should give rebooting and rewiring more than a few months. Give it time to heal and also work on other aspects of your life and never ever PM again not even M ever, just sex or nothing.

    Peace
     
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  6. JasonIsReal

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    Also I want to add. All people are different of course. If you erection problems stay even after a while of no pm then you do should consider to go fully no pmo. But I have seen 100s recovery stories who recovered perfectly without giving up sex so go for it.

    Watch Mikkois at youtube. He also had sex during his reboot, and he is doing great.
     
  7. dannylomora

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    Yea, thanks for the feedback. I mean when we start to make out, etc, my erections are hard, they get naturally hard. And I sleep with rockhard erections, I feel them as I sleep alone.. As I said, the guy who developed the site "yourbrainonporn" from his research, has no issues with sex, intimacy, sexuality with a partner during recovery/rebooting. That's why I wanted to ask around. I will keep you guys updated.
     
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  8. Undetekted

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    Same for me... I get so hard just by kisses, but when things get sexual I don't really feel my penis being stimulated. So since my problem is mostly related to not enjoying oral or stuff like that, I'm contemplating that I should take such opportunities when I get them, so I can learn appreciate them.
     

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