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No urges or sexual tension build up during hardmode. Is this normal?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Mrcarter92, May 6, 2022.

  1. Mrcarter92

    Mrcarter92 Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys, Im a 30 year old male starting another attempt at a reboot. Ive had streaks of 10-14 days a few times and usually give in due to external stresses and using PMO as an escape tactic. Ive learned a lot during those times and am now much more aware of my triggers and have a much better idea of how to navigate the urges and what not. Im on day 5 of my current streak and I feel fine, no urges, no stress. But thats what im worried about. In previous attempts ive found myself really horny or that im feeling the sexual energy in me rising rapidly after the first few days but this time i dont feel anything at all. I dont feel horny or any urges whatsoever. I have suffered from what i believe to be PIED for a long time (hence why im trying to rewire my brain)

    My question is, why am I not feeling anything at all when I was spending hours everyday looking at porn or girls on instagram/social media and now im completely off it? I dont allow myself to fantasize about girls or anything sexual, im not watching any tv shows or movies with any sexual content. I attempted this at the end of last year and within a couple of days i was on edge all the time but this time, nothing? Can anyone give any advice or info on this?

    Thanks heaps!
     
  2. PrioritySystem

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    You have only just begun, it’s way too early to draw these kind of conclusions now.

    It’s likely that you have exhausted and/or overstimulated yourself and for that reason not interested in it yet.
     
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  3. Mrcarter92

    Mrcarter92 Fapstronaut

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    Hey man thanks heaps for the reply. Would you be able to explain your comment a bit more? Are you saying if I went on a binge or had an extended period of time watching porn that there is a low period before the urges come back?
     
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    Yes!

    How do you handle tension building up in your body? Are you able to silence your mind and relax your body, in order to stay calm and ignore cravings for sexual rush?

    Do you use any kind of blockers or restrictions? Do you absolutely need to have a computer at home for work?
     
  5. thikk

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    That's part of the process from my experience. Sometimes you get constant urges and the first few weeks are a struggle, sometimes it feels like you feel almost completely nothing. In some cases I have had women trying to get freaky and I am not just in the mood. But all this happens in cycles, the quiet times will still be followed by some urges. So don't think about it too much, your goal is just not to use pmo and keep your head clear of sexual thoughts for 90 days. Ignore whatever you start worrying about in the process, your attraction for women/ or whatever your partner is will even be stronger, your dick will work perfectly, etc. All the reasons that make people 'worry' basically get better. Just stay clean.
     
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  6. Mrcarter92

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    Ok cool thanks for the advice mate! Im still learning a lot about the ups and downs of this stuff. I knew i had to get it right this time so i removed as many triggers as i could, i deleted all social media (instagram was a HUGE trigger for me to PMO), i put the safe search on my phone and laptop and deleted any sort of sexual content from my phone as well. I temporarily cut ties with a few sexual partners i had so i can focus on this because i found that speaking to them triggered me and if i couldnt have sex i would pmo instead. Apart from all of that i have to actively try not to check out every girl who walks past me because i found that i was doing that all the time without realising.

    Usually trying to abstain from pmo was incredibly difficult by this time and i was getting uncontrollable urges so i was a little freaked out this time because theyre just not there at all.
     
  7. Mrcarter92

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    Thanks for the reassurance mate, that makes me feel a lot better about the situation. Basically i just want to be more attracted to women in real life and cure my PIED. Im willing to do whatever it takes to do that. The PIED is really messing with my mental health so i know ive got to figure it out so it doesnt ruin the rest of my life. Ill take your advice and just ride the wave and whatever happens with my libido ill chalk up as part of the healing process and not focus on it too much.

    Appreciate the reply my dude!
     
  8. PrioritySystem

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    Sounds like you are getting increasingly aware and learning about the process. Some good measures have been taken already. If you continue like this you have a good chance of overcoming the compulsiveness and eventually curing the PIED as well, I think.

    Don’t get freaked out by a perceived ‘loss of libido’. Libido NEVER dies. It’s actually a good sign that you are less bothered by urges.
     
  9. Mrcarter92

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    Thanks mate, I feel way better about it all after your support. Today I felt exactly the same as I have recently but i just accepted it as a different version of the healing process than I have experienced in the past and had a more long term way of thinking rather than focusing on the present feelings too much. The urges dont bother me too much. I actually love that feeling of built up sexual energy because i tend to be way more productive during the day when I do so im not worried about the urges making me relapse. I was more worried about the lack of libido and lack of energy making me break but if its 'normal' and just part of the healing process then i welcome the lows as well.
     
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  10. PrioritySystem

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    Trust in nature, have faith in your biology. Without artificial stuff, things will sort themself out as they should!
     
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  11. Mrcarter92

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    Absolute legend mate, thanks heaps
     
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