Nocturnal Emissions (wet dreams) with a partner

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Something that hasn't happened yet but that I worry about is what would happen if I had a wet dream while sleeping with my partner. Yes, I know that a mess would happen, but how would she respond??

I've only had 4 wet dreams in my life, but I frequently wake up in the middle of the night feeling as if I am on the very edge of orgasm. When I'm sleeping alone and this happens, it's not a big deal, but when I'm with my girlfriend, it feels very awkward to wake up so fully aroused, in the middle of the night, while she's sleeping. And I can only imagine how awkward it would be if, instead of feeling like I'm about to O, I actually did, whether wide awake or if it happens in my sleep. :eek:

Does anyone else struggle with this? Any words of wisdom from men on how they have dealt with this, or how their partners reacted? Any input from women on how they would respond if they're recovering partner had an orgasm in the middle of the night?
 
Would you be akward or disgusted with your woman if she makes a little mess by accident because she drops blood while in her period while sleeping? If you are, you are a jerk. Is not her fault. She is going to apologyse about it when she don't need to because is not her fault. Just laugh about it, clean everything up and go to sleep.

The same apply to your wet dreams. If she make a scene about it she is a jerk and you get to know her a little better. If she don't care about it and help you clean is a bonus for her.
Don't worry about it, is a natural thing.. if it happens, happens. Theres nothing you can do about it.

If she ask how can you avoid that tell her that she can help you cleaning the pipes before going to sleep to avoid this problem... ;). Always be fun and playfull with your partner and she/he is going to be confotable around you, no matter what.
 
I never sleep without underwear!
Last night I have a wet dream, first in years!! I was astonished by it. There's nothing wrong with it, I made a mess inside my underwear but not in my bed, I just woke up knowing what had happen and went to the bathroom and changed my underwear, my partner didn't even notice that I went to the bathroom.
So, my advice, sleep whit underwear, I use lose ones and they do the job just fine.
Be safe.
 
My husband is over 18 months now without masturbating, probably helped a lot by some medication he is on, and has been getting regular wet dreams since about 3-4 months with no masturbation. He gets 1-2 a month and they just seem to come out of nowhere and and happen any time. Sometimes I have heard him groan in his sleep as he has his orgasm and he normally wakes up quickly afterwards, although sometimes he doesn't and only finds out in the morning. He wears underwear for bed so it's clear to see he has cum and he just has to go and change if he wakes up or he has a damp patch and cum stain if he only finds out in the morning. I've told him I find it a turn on and it's just a natural thing that happens so he feels he has my support.
 
Jimbo1989 said:
My husband is over 18 months now without masturbating, probably helped a lot by some medication he is on, and has been getting regular wet dreams since about 3-4 months with no masturbation. He gets 1-2 a month and they just seem to come out of nowhere and and happen any time. Sometimes I have heard him groan in his sleep as he has his orgasm and he normally wakes up quickly afterwards, although sometimes he doesn't and only finds out in the morning. He wears underwear for bed so it's clear to see he has cum and he just has to go and change if he wakes up or he has a damp patch and cum stain if he only finds out in the morning. I've told him I find it a turn on and it's just a natural thing that happens so he feels he has my support.
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Thank you for sharing that. It’s great to hear how supportive and understanding you are. Luckily for me it’s a very rare occurrence. But yes it can be super random. Leaves me wondering, was it something I ate.

It’s cute that you’re awake sometimes when it happens. I think I would feel the same if my female partner was moaning a little in her sleep. Mine did get totally pissed at me one time … but she thought I was lying next to her, masturbating, and we were still a fairly new couple.
 
I have a wet dream about once a fortnight and have sex dreams probably every other night. Often in my sex dreams I'm close but wake up before ejaculation, which on occasion has posed a problem as it's very tempting to just to finish yourself off at that point. As long as I'm wearing pants and she doesn't have to change the sheets, the other half isn't concerned.
 
My husband is over 6 months without porn or masturbating and seems to be settled into a routine where he will likely have 2-3 wet dreams per month. He usually has a very strong urge to masturbate but some anxiety medication he has been taking this year seems to have really reduced this to the point he can go without.
 
legendracer79 said:
My husband is over 6 months without porn or masturbating and seems to be settled into a routine where he will likely have 2-3 wet dreams per month. He usually has a very strong urge to masturbate but some anxiety medication he has been taking this year seems to have really reduced this to the point he can go without.
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I think that the most natural way to express and recycle sperm. I’ve never experienced this as we have regular sex. How frequently do you all dtd?
 
Sad_wife said:
I think that the most natural way to express and recycle sperm. I’ve never experienced this as we have regular sex. How frequently do you all dtd?
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We usually have sex a couple of times a week but he usually doesn't actually 'cum' however long we go, due to the medication he is on. It seems logical that this is why he would get the wet dreams.
 
Happened to me twice in the same week a couple of weeks ago. It always happens to me when I haven’t PMO’d in 4-5 days. I try not to make a big fuss when it actually happens (I just chuck a towel on the wet spots and sleep on top of it to dry it up). I don’t necessarily tell her in the morning but if she asks then I’ll be open to her about it and tell her, and she understands that it can happen to guys.
 
This happens to my and my SO fairly regularly. Most of the time she doesn't notice, but a few times she did. Normally she will say something sympathetic, as she knows wet dreams affect me negatively. Sometimes she's joked about it. Luckily she isn't precious about such things, so it doesn't bother her.
 
My husband has been getting wet dreams for the last 2 years, basically since he has not been masturbating. He gets 1 or 2 a month on average and it's clear he has ejaculated when they happen at night. He often doesn't wake up when he gets one but usually remembers in the morning. At first he was quite embarrassed and surprised they happened but now quite enjoys them and the feeling of having a release.

It actually a big turn on for me when they happen for him, just knowing he has been subconsciously so aroused that it caused him to orgasm and I love to see the cum or cum stain in his shorts when it has happened.
 
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