NoFap — The New Addiction

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NoFap is great movement. The idea of NoFap is to quit watching porn (I will explain why this is a great step in life) and at the same time limit masturbation. The idea is to break the habit of getting this huge amount of pleasure so frequent. The problem is that, instead of using this energy for something you want to accomplish, most people focus this energy on days, weeks, hours, minutes and years.

Most turned NoFap into, “I can do it more days than you”, “I can hit 90 days”. Everyone became “Counting Zombie”. Where are the benefits then?

Lower State = after you masturbate or watch porn;
Middle State = when you have thoughts of doing it;
Higher State = when you have more important things to do;

What should I do then?

1. Remove the counters and everyday checking, “How many days I am into this?”.
2. Find something more important to do. Set list of things you want to finish after you return back to your Lower State. They should be something easy to accomplish, hard to accomplish and something that isn’t in your control. Start doing these things as soon as you can. (Examples Below)
3. Start meditating — You know how to use the energy, but your mind is too noise. You can do that as long as you want or as little as you want. The desire should be coming from your heart, not because you should do it X amount of minutes.
4. Don’t get into Middle State — If you get into Middle State (lose control over your mind), you are done. This way DO NOT WATER any thought of dropping into Lower State. When you notice a thought, well done! This is being in the Present moment — most can’t notice these thoughts. Now it’s your choice if you wanna water it or not.
5. Listen to what everyone around You is telling You — Everyone around you is going to give you advices, ideas and help. Accept it. Doesn’t matter if you want or not. These are your prayers. Someone might tell you to work twice as hard as before, or to read specific book, or to do something specific — do it. God is sending you help towards your goals that are not in your control (step 2)
6. Live life in the present moment — At the end what matters is what you did during NoFap, not how many days you stayed “clean”. When you do step 5 strictly, your mindset will change and together with that, you will become different person and you will no longer have the desire to watch porn or masturbate.

Examples

Step 2 list
Easy to do tasks

• Clean your room
• Take a shower
• Shave your beard
• Try different haircut
• Re-arrange your home
• Create workout plan
• Drink 2 liter of water
• Drink 5 cups of tea

Hard to do tasks

• Replace a habit
• Find a job
• Weight gain/Weight loss
• Get in shape
• Follow a plan
• Learn new skill

Tasks not in your control

• Become more confident
• Become better person
• Become calm
• Become more spiritual
• Become good leader

Step 5
— Someone: Can you get me a cup of coffee?
That’s a an idea. It’s strange, but it’s an idea. You have 2 choices — to accept it or to decline it.

If you accept

You should do that task with Love, because God sent it to you. If you use your Ego at that moment and tell to yourself — “I am not a slave, why should I bring you a cup of coffee” — you are declining God’s idea.

You have no idea what’s going to happen if you bring coffee to that person, right? You might see a sign near the coffee shop, you might meet someone you haven’t seen in a while, you might meet the girl/boy of your life.

You also might not notice anything, but that doesn’t mean — you are not changing. With each idea accepted, your circle of possible ideas are going to get bigger. You don’t know what’s going to happen, so accept the idea and leave the Ego behind you.

If you decline

Your circle of possible ideas might get smaller, but soon you will get another idea. With each decline, you are going to feel more anger, or guilt, or sadness, or sick etc… Until you accept the next idea God gives you. Then you are going to start expanding the circle of ideas and this will make you happier and healthier and more confident and etc…

It doesn’t matter….
At the end, it doesn’t matter if you returned back to Lower State, because you’ve done the best you can. If you have completed a single idea given by God you’ve done enough for this NoFap journey.