NoFap and Identity

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Tengu, Sep 17, 2020.

  1. Tengu

    Tengu Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys. I want to talk about something that I've been conflicted about for a long time struggling with porn. When it comes to PMOing, I always blamed it for any insecurities/ and flaws I had. However, as I continue grow as a person naturally, I see that it's not always to blame. The reason I started Nofap was to see what the benefits were for myself. I know that I have a lot of amazing qualities, but I want nofap to make these qualities shine even more and hopefully it will. Still, I have the habit of letting relapses get to me as if I'm somehow less social or less confident than I was before I relapsed. I don't want porn in my life anymore, I know it's holding me back. At the same time, I know that PMOing shouldn't define me. How do I reconcile these thoughts?
     
  2. 4eyedfox

    4eyedfox Fapstronaut

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    PMO is not the root of your problems it just amplifies them. I recommend reading the easypeasyway method. as a great way to learn at how to look at pmo.
     
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  3. Tengu

    Tengu Fapstronaut

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    What exactly is the easypeasyway method?
     
  4. alphakadabro

    alphakadabro Fapstronaut

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    PMO is your own choice.
    PMO is something you re-create on a routine basis.
    It has no power without your invitation.

    Stop volunteering to look at porn.
    Stop undressing in front of a screen.
    Eventually, you will realize that you have always been free. PMO is nowhere to be found.

    And then you can come to know yourself without this thought process that makes addiction into an insurmountable problem.

    I wrote a few posts that may benefit you, especially the last one.

    My #1 Tip: Change Your Environment https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/my-1-tip-change-your-environment.288435/

    How To Use Devices In a Healthy Way https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/how-to-use-devices-in-a-healthy-way.290017/

    PMO Has No Power Over You https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/pmo-has-no-power-over-you.290204/
     
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    4eyedfox Fapstronaut

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