NoFap and meeting girls during a pandemic

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Daviesmark1, Sep 12, 2020.

  1. Daviesmark1

    Daviesmark1 Fapstronaut

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    I've really been struggling lately to remain positive about a lot of things due to the current world situation.

    I used to meet people mainly from going on nights out with friends to clubs and bars etc, and ended up meeting a couple of girls through that. But due to covid, that's all changed. Going out is not the same, you can't really approach people you don't know now and everyone is very paranoid about things.

    Worried about how long this will last and if socialising/meeting people will ever get back to how it once was.

    I have tried a couple of dating apps like Tinder, to try and meet new people, but never really have much luck on these apps. Prefer meeting people in real life.

    Does anyone have any thoughts on this and what the best thing to do may be? I'm so tired of being single and even if it's just a casual relationship, I just want to be experiencing that with someone. I'm 22 atm and still a virgin and pretty sexually frustrated. I brought two girls back to my flat, on separate occasions, the first time it didn't happen as I didn't have protection on me, and the second girl because the moment kind of faded- spark not quite there. I know it's not a massive deal not to have had sex, but it just plays on my mind a lot and I fear now I could be waiting even longer due to the current situation.
     
  2. I’m struggling to remain positive about the world due to the pandemic. A news detox has helped my mental health. Before the pandemic, I met all kinds of people going out thanks to NoFap and social networking. Going out isn’t the same anymore thanks to COVID. Everyone is wearing masks and social distancing. I’m afraid this will last for awhile. Won’t be surprised if it lasts throughout 2021 as well.

    Online dating is brutal. It’s all vanity. Your mostly likely to get rejected on there than in real life. I met my girlfriend through a friend because I was socializing a lot more. Meeting people in real life let’s you see the authentic person in real time.

    Relationships are hard and take time. I was suppose to get married this year in the summer but had to cancel because of COVID. I understand your frustration.
     
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  3. p1n1983

    p1n1983 Fapstronaut

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    I want to date too, but I take this covid thing as a great time to focus 100% on improving myself. Once covid is "over" this new improved version of you is going to do a lot better with woman. Instead of complaining about it take advantage of it.

    hahaha, come on man! ABP: Always be prepared. Always have several condoms in your bedroom and one in your wallet.
    Every girl that goes to your house is willing to have sex with you unless you talk her out off doing it. So you probably made a mistake and you don't even know. Read a little about seduction, and how to seal the deal with a woman. You did everything right to take her to your home but you fumble the ball at the last minute.
     
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  4. Dont overthink it. I just came out of a 45 minute meditation so my mind is a little more clear than usual right now.

    Let the Pandemic run its course. There is nothing we can do about it right now other than to wait. If you really need to meet people then you still got options. I am going on events with a hiking group. It is pretty easy to keep the 1 meter rule outdoors and flirting still does happen.
     
  5. Daviesmark1

    Daviesmark1 Fapstronaut

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    You make a good point about trying to improve, agreed. I should have been more prepared with the first girl yeah- I was kicking myself about this for weeks and is part of the reason why I am so desperate to try and put it right with someone else. Yeah the second girl did want to but she pretty much was saying that I was being too firm when fingering her- I didn't think i was. I tried adjusting this but she clearly then wasn't feeling it and we then just ended up kissing and going to bed and that was that. We pretty much stopped talking after that.

    My main point though is that I met both of these girls through socialising with friends or being at social events and talking to them there.. which then led to those things happening in the first place. Just worried how long I could be waiting for this sort of thing to happen again
     
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  6. Daviesmark1

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    Thanks for your response. I appreciate your positive outlook on the situation- I need to try and be more like that
     
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