NOFAP day 21

Alijub · Aug 14, 2018

NOFAP day 21

I had a really rough day yesterday. Depression is out. But I was having very hard time with horniness. To be frankly honest, I was close to failing. Very close......

The reason:

The reason was vague initially. But after taking some time to think about it, I found that there was a clear reason for it.

I went too far thinking about my wife and our reunion. The sexual part of the reunion. I would spend an hour sleeping on my stomach, and fantasizing about it. Thinking about details. Obviously, in the normal situation and for someone who’s not addicted, it’s a noble thing to do. But in my case, No, that really can end up fueling the fire and ending the streak.

What did I do to stop the edging:

Oh god that’s a hard question to think about now. I think at that moment, you just have to stop no matter what. For me the issue has been always that I have to take the decision to do so. So I would continue edging until I get to the point of extreme ecstasy, and at that point I took the decision to stop. That was motivated by the presence of my partner in the challenge. Also the challenge. I am willing to feel like shit over stopping this journey. I kill fapping or it kills me.

So really the problem is that I was putting myself into these bad situations.

What did I do to restart and end that mentality:

I had a good conversation with my partner about what had been going. I told her that I had to sort of restart the mentality. She was very supportive and it was amazing. Today I started pretty strong. I renewed the commitment of not taking any electronic devices with me to the bathroom.

slink123456 · Aug 14, 2018

Alijub said: ↑

NOFAP day 21

I had a really rough day yesterday. Depression is out. But I was having very hard time with horniness. To be frankly honest, I was close to failing. Very close......

The reason:

The reason was vague initially. But after taking some time to think about it, I found that there was a clear reason for it.

I went too far thinking about my wife and our reunion. The sexual part of the reunion. I would spend an hour sleeping on my stomach, and fantasizing about it. Thinking about details. Obviously, in the normal situation and for someone who’s not addicted, it’s a noble thing to do. But in my case, No, that really can end up fueling the fire and ending the streak.

What did I do to stop the edging:

Oh god that’s a hard question to think about now. I think at that moment, you just have to stop no matter what. For me the issue has been always that I have to take the decision to do so. So I would continue edging until I get to the point of extreme ecstasy, and at that point I took the decision to stop. That was motivated by the presence of my partner in the challenge. Also the challenge. I am willing to feel like shit over stopping this journey. I kill fapping or it kills me.

So really the problem is that I was putting myself into these bad situations.

What did I do to restart and end that mentality:

I had a good conversation with my partner about what had been going. I told her that I had to sort of restart the mentality. She was very supportive and it was amazing. Today I started pretty strong. I renewed the commitment of not taking any electronic devices with me to the bathroom.
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Congrats on getting to Day 21. You are very lucky to have someone who is that willing to support you. That doesn’t happen to everyone, and in other cases the partner become more insecure about themselves and their body. So don’t let this opportunity slip keep going and live a great no pmo life

Char_Ny · Aug 14, 2018

Alijub said: ↑

NOFAP day 21

I had a really rough day yesterday. Depression is out. But I was having very hard time with horniness. To be frankly honest, I was close to failing. Very close......

The reason:

The reason was vague initially. But after taking some time to think about it, I found that there was a clear reason for it.

I went too far thinking about my wife and our reunion. The sexual part of the reunion. I would spend an hour sleeping on my stomach, and fantasizing about it. Thinking about details. Obviously, in the normal situation and for someone who’s not addicted, it’s a noble thing to do. But in my case, No, that really can end up fueling the fire and ending the streak.

What did I do to stop the edging:

Oh god that’s a hard question to think about now. I think at that moment, you just have to stop no matter what. For me the issue has been always that I have to take the decision to do so. So I would continue edging until I get to the point of extreme ecstasy, and at that point I took the decision to stop. That was motivated by the presence of my partner in the challenge. Also the challenge. I am willing to feel like shit over stopping this journey. I kill fapping or it kills me.

So really the problem is that I was putting myself into these bad situations.

What did I do to restart and end that mentality:

I had a good conversation with my partner about what had been going. I told her that I had to sort of restart the mentality. She was very supportive and it was amazing. Today I started pretty strong. I renewed the commitment of not taking any electronic devices with me to the bathroom.
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Great to hear that you have made it to twenty one days and I hope that you are motivated even more to continue in this journey. I just want to point out that thinking about the days and streaks that you have completed or completing will actually do you harm sometimes. For example, if someone says "I can't wait to complete thirty days" they have already put themselves in a position that after thirty days they are susceptible to fall back into a relapse again. basically what I'm trying to say is don't focus too much on your streak but focus on each day because thats what matters most, not how many days you have completed. And as always GET BETTER TODAY!!!

Alijub · Aug 15, 2018

Irongamer said: ↑

Great to hear that you have made it to twenty one days and I hope that you are motivated even more to continue in this journey. I just want to point out that thinking about the days and streaks that you have completed or completing will actually do you harm sometimes. For example, if someone says "I can't wait to complete thirty days" they have already put themselves in a position that after thirty days they are susceptible to fall back into a relapse again. basically what I'm trying to say is don't focus too much on your streak but focus on each day because thats what matters most, not how many days you have completed. And as always GET BETTER TODAY!!!
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Thank you for the reminder

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Great to hear. And double great for staying open with her. The support of the one you love gives so much strength to both of you.

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