NoFap -Depression/ Unemployment/Singleness

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Dec 25, 2018.

  1. One of the reason why PMO is so attractive is that it dulls out my pain.

    I don't want to live life like a zombie any more! I have been facing my negative emotions but its difficult at times.

    In my mind I have these scripts that play on a loop

    Stuff like

    -Whats the point of trying to get a job, your too old to catch women in their 20s
    *One of my motivations to work is so I am more attractive to the opposite sex.
    -You've tried everything from voluntary work to qualification's to get a job and your still out of work. Society is full of unemployed people, for a reason. Unemployment statistics.

    Not that am asking for dating advise etc. But it seems so hopeless! Thats why I Fapped in the past because life seems so hopeless.

    Your different point of view would be appreciated
     
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    Its not that I can't get a woman. I can!

    But I have standards! Being unemployed places you into a position where you attract for lack of a better word sluts, or women that are easy and don't know what they want. I am very conservative, and have traditional values, so ideally I want a woman like that. I've tired dating sites but the women that go for me are too old. I want a woman between 23 and 33 ideally. Am 47 but don't look it. It's so darn depressing having the feeling that I have to settle for second best. I have turned down women before because they didn't meet my standards. My standards are not too high I just look for things like commonsense, sense of humour, attractiveness. She doesn't need to be a model but I do need to feel attracted to her. Fapping made it so easy! I felt at the time that I was meeting my needs. But after many years of Fapping I realised that it was taking life from me like a vampire! I can't get the life that Fapping took away from me but I can take a stand where I am, and decide to change. I did that! I have good days and bad days! Sometimes am not tempted but today I went to the shops and I was lusting in my head over a check out chick. Later that some day I felt like looking at P, but I didn't

    I can see what your saying about limiting beliefs. The problem I have here is that people say that if you change you beliefs then that changes your outcomes. Yeah! If you changed some beliefs then you would have different outcomes but some things are out of your control. We can't change the economy or the hiring practises of employers.

    The thing that stops me from Fapping is I keep on thinking that it will not solve my problems. I used to like how it would numb me, I didn't care if I felt like a zombie.

    There is no cure for my depression states. They don't usually last long and I push through them! The thing is my depression is what I call environmental. Its caused by society etc. Yes there are things that I can do differently and I am going to try different ways of getting a job in the new year. But if they fail. Then I will have to do voluntary work again. Its bull shit! Voluntary jobs don't open doors, because employers want candidates with paid work experience. Its all so depressing!

    Without a job! I am no one to a women! Its funny If I met a unemployed woman I wouldn't judge her, but guys are suppose to be the bread winners.
     
  3. bloomz

    bloomz Fapstronaut

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    I just moved home, took a job at Burger King. It’s really fun! If you drop your ego & don’t think it’s above you possibilities arise :)
     
  4. I live in Australia you typically employers like McDonnell's and Burger King etc only employ younger people up to 20. People older than that are usually in Management or have a disability.

    I have applied for jobs with them in the past and I was culled.

    Employers in Australia will not give you a job unless you have recent paid work experience. Recruitment companies here will not touch you if you have more than a six month unemployment gap. My gap is more than 3 years if you don't include my voluntary work.

    Here is a blogg that tells you what is like being unemployed in Australia

    https://muut.com/auwustories/
     
  5. bloomz

    bloomz Fapstronaut

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    Well damn Australia I thought you guys were better than that. I guess America beats y’all on giving chances and finding work.
     
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  6. What do you know about the hiring practises in America? Are they different in any way?
     
  7. bloomz

    bloomz Fapstronaut

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    Well I was embarrassed coming into Burger King in my late twenties, but most the employees are 30,40,50... only a couple high schoolers on weekends. So just knowing that you can basically get a job anywhere without judgment or discrimination of age, experience etc
     
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