NOFAP DOESN'T WORK-PLEASE ANSWER!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Stanza, Jun 19, 2020.

  1. Stanza

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    Hi everyone. I wanted to know if anyone else has my problem. I'm 73 days hardmode and from day 0 I had 0 benefits. Not even one. 0, absolute zero ... my situation is the same. masturbating with porn or complete abstinence are the same for me. 0 libido, very few erections in over two months. I don't want to do anything, I don't want to masturbate, nothing. One positive thing is that these months I started to take cold showers, I have opened a new instagram account of music history with more than 1000 followers, I have started reading every night .... but I think it is not for Nofap. has anyone experienced my situation?
     
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  2. OhWhenThe

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    Maybe you just need more time. 90 days is only a rough guide and you're not actually at that point yet - but 73 days is still a hell of an achievement.

    I saw a return of libido after 60 days and it happened pretty quickly so whilst it feels like you're not getting anywhere, it could all change soon. Keep going.
     
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  3. bigboibez

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    Some people take ages to reboot.
    Some people were never addicted in the first place and so abstinence doesn't make much of a difference.
    Some people get used to not being addicted and don't know how good they feel unless they relapse and remember how bad it was.

    Keep going. What's the alternative?

    Good work btw 73 days impressive
     
  4. Stanza

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    Thanks, i am ready to wait for some good news
     
  5. Stanza

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    Thanks, yes i'll keep going on and see what happened. It's strange for me. I feel like i need like 6 months of reboot. I feel like i watched porn yesterdat, i mean i don't feel a long abstinence
     
  6. Awedouble

    Awedouble Fapstronaut

    That's like saying quitting sugar 'doesnt work' when you might be eating burgers and fries all day and/or don't exercise. The idea that quitting one thing alone is going to give you a whole laundry list of benefits is like the Pakleds (Star Trek reference) understanding of how things work.
     
  7. alexandrebois

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    You need to wait 90days, and then you'll become a PMO free
     
  8. angelpart

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    If you're hoping for some of the magical benefits that some people talk about, then don't. I think most of it is pure placebo effect.

    My personal experience is that I don't feel much different, appart from the fact that I don't have this daily craving for PMO. I feel more free and I have more free time. That's about it.
     
  9. alexandrebois

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    Sorry to disagree with you

    No PMO Gives a lot of benefits:

    1 - Return of the homeostasis of the brain, this results in: - Sensations of well-being, calm. Reduced irritability. Ease to laugh. - Feel real pleasure in daily tasks, in social interaction, art, movies, books, video games. - Being able to use areas of the brain atrophied by PMO. Much more creativity, humor, analytical skills. - Memory and concentration greatly improved. Clarity of mind. Small details no longer bother. - Improved motivation. Difficult things before become affordable. - Improved self-confidence. Being able to look others in the eye. Assert yourself easily. Less shyness. No one is proud to be MO / PMO Addict. - Increased sensitivity to bad behavior and words. - Ease of giving up other addictive behavior (video games, cigarettes, too much coffee, obsession with someone of the opposite sex, etc.). - Music becomes more pleasant to the ear. It is even possible that musical tastes change. - Less sleep is needed to feel rested. - Less stuttering, and greater ease of expression. - Being able to remember dreams. And do it much more often. - The movement of the body, posture and gait change. More dexterity. Subtle grace. - Sexually: return to normal sensitivity. Less problems of impotence. More love for her partner. - Increased emotional resilience, controlling your emotions becomes easy. - Less perfectionism.
    2 - Physical changes: - Bright, vibrant, lively, sparkling eyes. They may even change shape slightly. - Your skin will appear shiny and younger. - Improved physical and mental energy. - A deeper voice (for men) (sometimes). - You will be less concerned by hot, cold, pain, hunger, and external conditions ... 4 - Feeling a man (woman). Less acne. Less digestive problems. The addict often has urinary problems, and goes to the bathroom several times a day for a minimal and burning flow. Fewer tics. Less baldness in predisposed people. A stronger immune system. Less dandruff ... 5 - And many other less important benefits ...
     
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  10. angelpart

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    Well as I said that's just my experience.
     
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  11. alexandrebois

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    you need to wait at least 365 days for that to happen
     
  12. Rothbard

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    You aren't wasting time on PMO, that's one benefit. I'm sure you have better things in life to do.

    So let's bump up your benefits count from 0 to at least 1.
     
  13. Awedouble

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    Generalizations never explain individual differences. More time doesn't explain the cause and effect of anything, it certainly doesn't explain why even people with a long streak also relapse even if it's less common. But of course if people are fixated on benefits they don't look at any details. Waiting for more time is like thinking more money will make you happy. There's a good chance, but the simplistic logic of more is of course the addiction logic. More PMO, more abstinence - two side of the same coin of 'reasoning.'
     
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  14. I don't think anyone should really worry about the benefits - ever. Life doesn't work that way. Belief that one is on the correct path is good enough. If you don't believe it, get off the path.
     
  15. This. I've been on only a few "long" streaks but almost everytime I relapsed was because I was frustrated over not seeing benefits like others. I can't think like that anymore or else this will never work.
     
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  16. OhWhenThe

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    May I ask how badly were you addicted/how hard you found it to quit and did you have much in the way of withdrawals?

    In my case I've found it so, so tough to quit and I also have terrible withdrawals(going through them again right now). I'm perhaps naively hoping this means the "payoff" at the end of it will be bigger than for someone who didn't have it quite so bad? Also, when I did make it a couple of months before I saw big sexual improvements - libido, erection quality, morning wood etc but not much change mentally from what I remember.
     
  17. I must admit if I were 20 I might be skeptical about the benefits. Age & experience provide a solid perspective. If only I had given up porn and masturbation when I was 20 I truly believe I would be a very different person today. I'm not a loser or a failure, but my God, the time, energy, and cash all gone...the missed relationship opportunities. Thanks, porn addiction!
     
  18. angelpart

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    I'm 31, been masturbating daily since I was 10 or so. Watching porn daily since age 15 or so. First tried to quit when I was 18, been battling on and off since then. I later got addicted to cam sites and other stuff I won't mention because it's triggering. Not gonna lie I spent many years without even trying to quit because failing repeatedly made me lose hope at times.

    I never had any withdrawals though, I just get really horny for weeks when I start a streak but then it slowly goes away over time.
     
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  19. OhWhenThe

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    I wish I'd tried to quit at 18, it took me until 28 to realise that watching so much porn might not be doing me any favours.

    So right now do you feel no horniness in your day to day life? Maybe you're in a flatline? It's great that you've cut the ties with porn though, hopefully I can get to that point as well one day.
     
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  20. Dr.LoveLength

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    NoFap wont magically give you a better life, you have to actually put in the work to build a better you...
     

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