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NoFap for over a year. No success...

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by xxmemel0verxx, Dec 17, 2019.

  1. xxmemel0verxx

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    Hello, I am 15 years old, I started PMO back when I was in the 6th grade (I was 12 at the time). And like every kid, PMO felt amazing. I came to realization that porn and masturbation were effecting me mentally and physically. But nonetheless, I still continued my addiction until about a year ago. I started NoFap when I was 14, it was the best decision of my life. I started to watch videos everyday on how to improve my life; from motivational videos, to spirituality videos. Like everybody, when I first started I would get some decent streaks (my highest is 21 days). However, I started to decline in my ability to abstain from PMO. Now, I cannot pass a week without masturbating and watching porn which bothers me so much (my average streak length is 2 days). I absolutely hate this, and can’t seem to understand what happened. I have always been a energized, looking for a girlfriend dude, but now I don’t want to lust anymore. I HATE IT. I just want to live my life with peace, and achievement. Can you guys please give me advice, doesn’t matter what age. I just need advice, please.
     
  2. Well to start it’s very impressive you started nofap so early on, dedicate your life to self improvement and you will be miles ahead of everyone else, it wasn’t until I was 19 that I got into self improvement. You are only 15 so I would take it easy on yourself, like I said it wasn’t until I was 19 until I started caring, I was not really mentally able to care until that age it seems, and I consider myself a very intelligent and mature person, so you are doing great. What I did to help get me back on my reboot is I started running, I started doing legs at the gym, I did everything I did not want to do. That is what you need to do, find ways to step out of your comfort zone and improve!, and my honest opinion is you should not be focused on dating at 15, I get it you crave intimacy and a girl but it’s to early for you in my opinion, I am 21 and I am holding off on dating until I am rebooted and ready. One tip of advice I would like to give you is try listening to those more experienced than you, they most likely do know better but that does not mean not thinking for yourself, at your age you really don’t know a thing about anything, your brain is still forming and your body is still growing, so just do your best and when you get older everything will become clear.
     
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  3. xxmemel0verxx

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    Right on man.
     
  4. Hello young man, it is a very good thing you have achieved such progress in your age!
    You need to make Nofap as a lifestyle, means you should fill your routine with healthy activities and replace PMO with positive goals and other tasks in your life. Keep doing the good work. And mainly do not depend on willpower alone, but read rebooting materials, apply them, avoid triggers and do healthy activities.

    It might feel tough to control your urges after a long streak especially after a binge. But this will be controlled as soon as you take a grip on your streak! You are doing great! Be proud and keep doing the good work :)
     
  5. xxmemel0verxx

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    I try it out
     
  6. Very impressive. Put all that energy into learning/studying/enjoying/experiencing.
    You're on the right track, so try to avoid worrying.
     
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  7. Xexos

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    No matter what anyone says, it's just empty talk that won't amount to anything. I keep hearing everyone talking about how "the secret" to Nofap is distracting yourself, or "the secret" is energy transmutation, or meditating, exercising, doing this, doing that, etc. And while i agree that they help, but they still won't be enough to get over this, they're just some means to help you to move forward as much as possible, but you'll fail eventually.

    To get to the point and make it as simple as possible, you're weaker than your lust/addiction or whatever you wanna call it, that's why you keep failing. If you want some magical spell or secret tip that will suddenly make you a Nofap pioneer or something, then just give up.

    You just have to get stronger and beat this enemy as hard as you can.
     
  8. Xexos

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    If he doesn't depend on his willpower and his own strength, then he will never succeed at Nofap or anything else. As i mentioned in my previous post, there's no secret to anything, it's just a matter whether you're capable of doing it or not, whether you're strong enough or not. No matter how long he'll have to depend on those magic formulas, if he's not strong enough to begin with, he'll fail miserably.
     
  9. And the young man is doing very well indeed.
    Give him some credit.
     
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  10. Give celibacy a try. You don't have to do it forever. See my journal "Dexter's Journey" for further information. Take care!
     
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  11. SeekingPower

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    Hello,
    Although more than twice your age, I can relate to you as I have been in your situation.
    I discovered NOFAP accidentally while trying to get a GF.
    I accidentally noticed, that NOFAP actually increases my ability to get GF and vice versa.

    Coming from that, you goals are a bit different that some of the older guys here.
    Your goal is simply to get a GF. And NOFAP is a big part of that. Your self improvement activities are also a part of that.
    When you get a GF, you will not even think or enjoy M.
     
  12. xxmemel0verxx

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    Is it alright if I try to cut porn off first, then the masturbation.
    you know it’s pretty hard to not do anything sexual at this age
     
  13. xxmemel0verxx

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    That is good advice, but what if I cannot get a women. I still be stuck.
     
  14. xxmemel0verxx

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    What do you think I should do? Should I cut porn off first, then the masturbation and orgasm?
     
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  15. Willpower is just a part of getting up, but willpower alone is not enough, The number of those who quit depending on willpower only are almost non. And if they did, they may comeback to their addiction with worse binges. Also as the addict keep relapsing his willpower will get weaker and weaker, so he has to strengthen himself with other factors as well. If it depends on willpower only, then why after a relapse, when I say I want to stop and enough is enough.. couple of hours later.. I relapse again ?
     
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  16. Mr.Chips I agree with you 100%. Willpower is not constant. To wrestle with something, in this case addiction, all of the time gives it strength.
    A better policy is to use a number of tactics. For example avoidance, cold showers and meditation. We must be prepared to be flexible in our approach. In short we must use what works at a given time.
     
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  17. Hisself

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    Yes. Cutting porn is essential and the most important. If you can successfully cut porn while still masturbating without it leading you back to porn then you may not need to quit masturbation and orgasm. At your age I doubt you have developed a sexual dysfunction so it shouldn’t negatively impact your recovery most likely UNLESS it leads you back to porn.
     
  18. Di.Do.555

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    You are on the right track mate.
    Between you and success there is a set amount of relapses.
    I think u need to do intense Excercises.
    It will make your journey a breeze.
    You have to know yourself.
    What triggers you?
    I am not talking about girls or p , i am talking about your anxiety.
    What makes u feel anxious?
     
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  19. scottb

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    Dude you quit your pmo'ing habit at the age of 14 & I started pmo'ing at the age of 15 or 16, my other friends however started masturbating at a very young age like you, they always tried to convince me for masturbation but I used to change topic whenever they tried to convince me but then one day l just gave it a try and it felt so amazing and then I build up the habit of porn and masturbation for 2 years and let me tell you something in those 2 years all my aggressiveness, self esteem, confidence reduced drastically and then at the age of 18 I came to know about nofap challenge.
    And then I accepted the challenge, my longest streak was of 36 days and currently I'm on day 4 and I think I'm already recovered but I'm not going back to that shit.
    And I want same for people who are reading this.
     
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  20. xxmemel0verxx

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    I’ll try it out.
     

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