NoFap for over a year. No success...

xxmemel0verxx · Dec 19, 2019

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@xxmemel0verxx, as (almost) everybody here is telling you ... you have really achieved a lot by waking up and realising at that young age that you may have a problem and, not only that, you're even still trying to tackle it. That's what I'd call a F*** great success. You're only 15 and you have many steps ahead in the path, but you're going in the right direction. Whether you're able to stay away of PMO for 2,3, ... days/weeks/months ... it does not really matter as long as you keep your goals in mind.

Pessimism will not take us to any good place. Sometimes we all need words of encouragement and motivation. Besides, as @SirErnest said, we have to give him some credit because he really deserves it. Regarding what you mentioned about "the secret" ... I know what you mean. I think we all should take everything on this forum with a pinch of salt ... even though most of us are well-intentioned, all our comments and recommendations are based on our own previous experiences and on what has worked (or not) for us. Everybody is different and, not only that, what worked for us at some specific time could easily not work at others and viceversa. I think timing plays a key role in all this huge journey of self-learning and introspection.

I'm afraid that will not happen. My first attempt was when I fall in love with the girl that (more than 17 years later) is still my wife. That's a fallacy I used to say to myself when I was single, and it "worked", because it kept me PMOing many times every f*** day during all my childhood and early adulthood. I thought all my "issues" were going to disappear as soon as I got a GF. Wrong! My first streak lasted only two weeks and it was a really hard battle. Since then, I've tried again in some other occasions, but never went much far than 2/3 weeks. But my "issues" were fully-fledged by the time I got a GF, maybe this doesn't apply to the case of our young man, who knows?

I think having some kind of compulsive masturbation habit during your teens is something common and normal. After all, you're still young and you have to discover your sexuality. The problem comes when you put together M with P, because P is artificial and distorts completely our vision of what real sex should be. Our fathers maybe fantasized and masturbated using vanilla erotic magazines, but P is so f*** explicit that there's no room for our imagination: we stop fantasizing and become only P passive consumers. Because M could lead you easily to P, if I were you, I should try to stay away also from M as long as I can and only use it when I really really really "need it" (but without feeling guilty afterwards -that's important-).

About willpower ... as @Mr.Chips and @Dexter Moran said ... is not enough. It's only a tool from our toolbox, but realying only on willpower is going to make us relapse sooner or later. Willpower is one of the most powerful tools, but consumes a lot of energy from us so ... the more we use, the less we have. We should leave it for the moments in which the other tools have failed.

“The best things in life don’t come easy, but those things are the ones worth the sacrifice.”
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Thank you for taking your time to write for me, and I will try what you said.

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I began NoFap at 15 myself, I’m 18 now. When I first did it at 15, I did it because I had escalated in porn and gained HOCD. I did a great job back then, it’s all about mental strength.

There are no tips, no secrets, nothing like that. Quitting pmo is all in your head, yeah the urges will be tough, but if you can be strong enough to keep saying no, you will succeed.

StonePlacidity · Dec 20, 2019

xxmemel0verxx said: ↑

Hello, I am 15 years old, I started PMO back when I was in the 6th grade (I was 12 at the time). And like every kid, PMO felt amazing. I came to realization that porn and masturbation were effecting me mentally and physically. But nonetheless, I still continued my addiction until about a year ago. I started NoFap when I was 14, it was the best decision of my life. I started to watch videos everyday on how to improve my life; from motivational videos, to spirituality videos. Like everybody, when I first started I would get some decent streaks (my highest is 21 days). However, I started to decline in my ability to abstain from PMO. Now, I cannot pass a week without masturbating and watching porn which bothers me so much (my average streak length is 2 days). I absolutely hate this, and can’t seem to understand what happened. I have always been a energized, looking for a girlfriend dude, but now I don’t want to lust anymore. I HATE IT. I just want to live my life with peace, and achievement. Can you guys please give me advice, doesn’t matter what age. I just need advice, please.
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only one thing you need to know in this journey:
“If you quit every time it’s challenging, you’ll never make it. That’s why only the dedicated succeed. Only the people that truly want it.”

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