NoFap Got Me a Girlfriend.

wish i could get a gf lol

 

cool

 

topic

 

Hey, good work! How did you get a gf?

 

Good for you bro!

I'm on Day 9, this post motivated me,
main goal for me is also have more self confidence with girls, and eventually, have a girlfriend.

 

apparently day 9 is the hardest for some reason. Im on day 3 and i feel great already

 

It certainly hasn't helped me a lot getting a gf (or wf rather) during my almost 2 1/2 years on hard-mode. On the other hand, I try not to play the victim card either since I haven't wanted it to 100% as I have been focusing on self-improvement and getting many pieces of my life in order first.
Especially with regards to the mental and spiritual aspects of it since I know everything will align and fall into place perfectly (like it has done so far actually) as I get more and more comfortable with myself and being single for the moment.
That does of course make you icier and more selective about the women you pick for a potential relationship but that's also preferable since that means you won't lose your integrity, friends, family-relationships and hobby in the process like so many men do whenever they enter a relationship and try to cater to the woman's needs and wishes.
In that sense, I would be totally fine (if it ever comes to that) to let her walk out the door because my hobbies/interests, family, and friendships will always go first and if she can't cope with it or accept it, so be it because finding a new and better woman is always easier than trying to regain your lost family-relationships or friendships.

 

I had a girlfriend at my job but it was over quick now we just friends

 

It looks more like - girl gave you a reason to nofap.

 

Yeah, I guess it’s because I didn’t have much to talk about with her my shyness. On what to say. I should of asked her what can she give me that I can’t get from any other girl

 

Was talking about OP, but all I can say, Lazarus, is that it don't impress me anymore when guys get GF or "success" with girls because of nofap. What really makes me happy is that guys come closer to God during the streak, makes that one most important relationship better. Because no one is more loyal and trustworthy than God. For example guy can have many girlfriends, but only one mom who stay there for him in all times, no matter good or bad. But God is even more than that when you come to know Him cause He have said -

Isa 49:15: "Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget you."

 

And women can be also deceived and deceiving like Eve and Delilah so it is best to stay strong and close to God like you said!

 

You will but remember girls are supplements to an already good life.

 

That's one important message you stress!
Any woman that gets into your life (as a girlfriend or dating-partner) should be regarded as the icing on the cake and not the cake itself.
Because, the moment you let any woman trying to mold you according to her frame and expectations by start picking on and criticize your friends, family-members, your job, hobbies and interests, you are bound for disaster if you give in to her demands, unless you put down the foot and gently show her the door if your lifestyle doesn't suit her. If she whines, screams, cries and tries to make a drama about the reasonable offer, you know (on the spot) you saved yourself months, years and perhaps even decades of misery and pain.

You can always find a sweeter and better woman out there (the importance of an abundance mindset), so you don't lose too much by discarding a bad one from your life since all of your other areas in life, i.e. friends, family, hobbies and interests are still existing and standing strong. The latter are much harder to repair if damaged or severly broken.
The sad thing is that the vast majority of Western men these days let their girlfriend/wife dictate their lives and hence give up on so many other areas of life just to please her. After that point, they walk through years and decades of pure misery until they get red-pilled and can put it to an end.