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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by asumata, Oct 22, 2014.

  1. asumata

    asumata Guest

    When I had my first sexual encounter with my girlfriend (about 2 weeks ago) I had noticed that I had not been able to get a full erection. At first I thought it was the first time jitters but more recently the same thing happened. I then decided to do some research and found this website. I did notice that I had fapped a lot but I never really attributed it to an addiction. I don't think that I am addicted to pornography or fapping, but I'm wondering if fapping excessively was the problem I was having. I guess my question is if there are anybody out there who may have the same issue that I am having or any research on the problem I'm facing. I have been fap-free for about 2 days so far but am skeptical to continuing. Any responses are welcome!
     
  2. Caveat Emptor

    Caveat Emptor Distinguished Fapstronaut

    I had that problem too. It was fixed after 115 Days of hard mode (no masturbation, no porn and no orgasms at all, with a partner or without). Day 115 was my first time sleeping with my current girlfriend and I've been on easy mode since (no masturbation, no porn. Only orgasm with a partner.)

    I was skeptical also, but I stuck with it and have seen numerous improvements, including much better sex. My personal philosophy about porn addiction is one doesn't realize he or she is addicted until after they've tried quitting. I recommend going for 30 days without porn and fapping and see what happens/how you feel.
     
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  3. Sonu1983

    Sonu1983 Fapstronaut

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    Stay away from fap. try to go for atleast 90 days without orgasm even with partner. ull definately get a good erection and stamina.
     
  4. asumata

    asumata Guest

    I don't think this is for me. Best of luck to the rest of you!
     
  5. Caveat Emptor

    Caveat Emptor Distinguished Fapstronaut

    Asumata, is there another potential reason for your sexual dysfunction? If not, eliminating porn/fapping may be the only solution.

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  6. asumata

    asumata Guest

    Well I thought pretty hard about it and I think that since I'm pretty new at this type of stuff w.e. I was just truly unsure about exactly how "hard" I was supposed to be. all my perceptions were based on presumptions and by using pornography as my only reference I had assumed that something might be wrong. Also I can't really find any scientific articles or journals that have pointed to fapping causing ED. So I have no reason to believe that it does. I'm going to wait and talk to my doctor if after continued relations I feel like I am under performing and see what he could recommend.
     
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  7. Caveat Emptor

    Caveat Emptor Distinguished Fapstronaut

    Tube porn sites have only been around since 2007.
    So you're right, there's isn't a lot of "scientific evidence" directly saying that porn causes erectile dysfunction, since its such a new phenomenon, but there are plenty of studies saying its on the rise.

    Have you seen this Ted Talk on the subject?
     
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  8. asumata

    asumata Guest

    I actually tried to click the link on the reddit page to find some research on the topic but the link wasn't working. I wasn't trying to say that pornography may be causing my problems but rather fapping too much or too frequently. The Ted Talk you had sent me (Which I found very Interesting) talks about giving up porn rather than what I see people calling PMO. Now this is something I could probably get behind. I had to watch the video pretty fast due to the fact that I am simultaneously studying for an exam tomorrow, but it seemed like there was some research backing what he was talking about. I must say that I feel like I am not addicted to pornography in the slightest so it would be easy to give it up and if in the end nothing happens, then it's not that big of a deal.
     
  9. Pellaeon

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    How often do you view porn? Also, do you always masturbate to orgasm when you view it?

    The reason people advocate to quit MO in addition to P is because most people have strongly associated masturbation with Porn, so masturbating still reinforces those same neurons, albeit not necessarily as strongly. Also, the key point of the reboot is to re-sensitize yourself to dopamine, which is difficult to do if you are flooding your brain with massive quantities of it.

    In some ways, it can be thought of as diabetes of the mind - just like your body becomes insulin resistant when you flood it with sugar on a constant basis for years, so too does your brain become dopamine resistant if you flood it with porn on a consistent basis for years.
     
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  10. asumata

    asumata Guest

    When I did watch porn I would always do it while I M'd. I never watched it for the sake of watching it. At the time this was about 1-2 times a day id watch. However since the last 4 days I haven't watched any and if I M'd, I did without it. I haven't had any urge to watch P through out the last 4 days, not even the slightest.
     
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  11. asumata

    asumata Guest

    I think that abstaining from P is the path I'm going to take. I no longer have the drive to M as much as I used to which I believe is helping. I think I'm going to try to go for 180 days without P, is that a reasonable time stamp? I'm not really sure what people consider the benchmarks to be.
     
  12. Caveat Emptor

    Caveat Emptor Distinguished Fapstronaut

    It varies for everyone. One day at a time is the best method IMO, but longer goals can help too.
    If you think 180 is appropriate, go for it.

    Good luck, friend. :)
     
  13. Sonu1983

    Sonu1983 Fapstronaut

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    Dear asumata i want u to explain bit more abt ur problem. how long u r masturbating. whats the frequency each day or week. how often u see porn. how long u abstain from porn and fap individually. what urges u get. it about p or mo. how do u masturbate r u using any type of lubricant or how hard u grip ur penis. reply this then maybe i can suggest u something. wish u a good health bro.
     
  14. asumata

    asumata Guest

    I'm sorry but I don't want to relay this information, I've already decided the path I'm going to take, thanks anyways.
     
  15. Sonu1983

    Sonu1983 Fapstronaut

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    As u wish bro goodluck for ur journey.
     
  16. erik44

    erik44 New Fapstronaut

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    If you are habituated of masturbating then get rid of it. Yes, masturbating should never be implemented for quenching your thirst of sex. This act cans only temporary pleasure that to also not complete satisfaction could be attained. Furthermore it weakens your stamina and sperm ejaculation volume also. Be strong enough and control yourself and have sex only with your spouse, I guarantee that you will feel the difference being on bed with your partner.

    Moreover for performing extra ordinary on bed you can rather talk about sex with your partner, try various ways of loving each other while you are together, use various positions, habituate yourself with moderate regular exercise, live stress free, etc. These useful tips can add spark to your sex life.

    Or go to: improvesexlife.puzl
     
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