I just need to vent, and if someone has any advice for me, EXCEPT to masturbate or even to look at P, please chime in. I have never been a 30 minute warrior. But I would be able to last maybe a few mineutes and then most of the time me and the wife would go for round 2 and I would last a lot longer. Fast forward to now. The last few weeks when we have had sex, I would be lucky to last a minute. And a few times it was over in like 20 seconds. It has made me a lot lore sensitive down there. Which also is leading to performance anxiety. Making my erections not as hard and as strong. I have even lost it a couple times but was able to get it back. I can’t calm myself down. All I think about is trying to get and stay hard, which I never had a problem with while fapping to P. I used to get erections on command, and then once I’m hard I think about us being able to get it in, and then all I can focus on is trying to not finish, and then before I know it is over. And I’m depressed and feeling guilty. There has been times I would resort to my hands and tongue for her, which is fine. I enjoy doing it also, but I want to be able to give my wife a orgasm through penetrating her. It really feels like a lot of it is in my mind and I don’t know how to control it. It’s freaking me out and honestly making me depressed because I’m not pleasing my wife. She’s nice about it, and says it’s okay. But I know it’s not. How would I feel if she touched on me and then got me hard and then walked away? That’s basically what I’m doing, getting her turned on and then I can’t satisfy her. This really sucks. It’s made sex not fun. I’m not a big drinker, but I have thought about having a few glasses of wine and see if it helped me relax and then have better sex. I wouldn’t want to resort to that regularly, but that would help me realize it’s all mental and in my head.