NoFap is worth it

When I started trying to quit (2010) I couldn't find any sites that were not explicitly religious. The diversity of people here really helps.

I'm pleased to hear that.

It is great that you both feel in this together.

I've found that too, I am infinitely more emotionally present in my marriage than before.

100%

Thanks, we will

I find it inspirational too.

 

Thank you for this post. It's nice to hear this kind of words from an addict's SO and not only the standard hopeless message.

 

Thank you for posting this.
I was really inspired by your last thread. You hit a big bump in the road, shared about it here and then shared how it was quickly resolved.

I loved reading that! You and your husband have a relationship and a recovery story that is enviable.

 

So so good to hear positive words of encouragement from a SO. Thank you!
My P addiction comes from a place of lack - lack of self esteem and fear of being vulnerable /being me. P is the outward manifestation of that. I have recognised how much it hurts me and those around me in oh so subtle and oh so not so subtle ways- I came clean to my wife bc I was so sick and tired of it and really really paining inside.
Yes there is narcissism in addiction and it’s not about just me- but we addicts aren’t bad people and are really hurting and often want to change but don’t know how or don’t believe we can fully let go of something that we sought validation in but which we know will never give us what we need. It’s great to hear a SO finding progress worthwhile rather than the goal of immediate perfection. It’s a process that both can work together to work towards- it does take honesty and willingness on the part of the P user/ addict - that goes without saying but it’s wonderful to hear your acceptance and hope.
Shame is a toxic on both sides