NoFap lead to other addictions.....

Mkngitwrk

Fapstronaut
Since I have been on nofap I have noticed that my libido has increased significantly. However I find myself now thinking about and wanting to have sex all the time. Is this normal? I am horny at all times of the day. I know that my partner enjoyed it at first however I think it is starting to impact my relationship. Is this another addictive behavior that is going to cost me a good relationship? How do you curtail this new found arousal? Anyone else going through this? Please share some control techniques.
 
Well, i guess nofap as all addictions is just a symptom of a deeper problem. It's common for addicts to get addicted to other things when they cut the primal addiction. I guess when you get deeper in why your addicted it's getting easier to understand.

I've been addicted to booze, drugs, sugar, caffeine, pmo, pmo with a lot of amphetamine, instagram, facebook, compliments etc etc.
When i stopped using one, i got involved in the other addiction.

So figure out the reasons you're getting addicted so easy..;)

And it helped me a lot to make a plan. So when i began to stop being addicted i just wanted to stop.. And that's good, but it's freaking hard to maintain focus with only one reason. So i made a plan. Why do i get addicted? What is it in my life that gives me so little joy that i always need to find other ways to get happy. .. Wait, i copy paste a long message i wrote to an other fellow...



"Do you fully understand why you happen to relapse all the time? I was a full-time addict. Porn, drugs, booze, sugar, social media.. Every short-term solution i used to cope with my problems.. Since i fully understand what addiction is and what the mechanisms are behind (my) addiction, it's easier to not give in! So, figure out all the things you need to know about addiction in general and about addiction in relation to you. The Internet is pretty useful for that. So you need to make sure that when you want to fully recover from addiction it has to be at the very top of your list... It has to be the most important thing besides food, water and air. So when you fully understand what the mechanisms are behind your addiction, then you make a solid plan.. Just getting in to reboot without a plan is the same as beginning an iron man triathlon with no training at all.

And with a plan i mean a real plan.. So i made a mind map of all the reasons why i don't want to fap. I would suggest you make a written paper with 40 reasons why you don't want to fap anymore. I say 40 because 2 to 5 reasons are to short. 40 reasons is a moderately long list so it takes a little time to read. It might take your mind of the urges.
I guess we addicts are really good at finding reasons why we should do it.. And therefore we are so damn good at convincing us to give in..
So we really need to change that mindset and make us only see the reasons why we dont want to fap anymore..

it helped me a lot, when i really have strong urges, to make a mantra of all the reasons why I don’t want to do it. As a porn related thought or image came up to my mind I count from 1 to 6 and backward and visualizing the numbers. I just count and visualize as long as I need to get rid of the porn images or thiught. This does two things.. Namely, it get's your mind of the porn and... it helps your brain make need pathways not related to porn (rewiring). I really noticed that after 3 weeks of consistently doing this, the images began to weaken... And afterward, when the images are gone, i do full the mantra 6 times..
And if that not helps, and i'm at home, i jump under the ice cold shower. It's such a shock to the body and mind that in 90 percent of the time i cant even think about porn haha.. And if even that dont help me, i will go run as long as i need. Last time i needed to run i kept on going for 25 kilometer hahaha.

So the other things i do to deal with the urges are..

- Intermittent fasting. I only alow myself to eat from 05:00 to 07:00 in the evening. It makes my willpower grow, i dont have a lot of food cravings anymore. I also fast 4 days a month only on water. So i dont eat, but only drink water for 4 days. It helps me A LOT to have a clear mind and it's fucking good for upregulating the dopamine receptors.
Just read this... https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/the-benefits-of-fasting-on-the-reboot.64894/

- i meditate a lot. It helps me SO SO SO SO fucking much in controlling my mind.
Read this
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/how-to-meditate-for-mindblowing-state.28105/
https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/5udawq/meditation_is_extremely_important_to_succeed_with/

- I only take ice cold showers.. It helps me a lot with increasing my willpower. We addicts have the habbit of always choose the most comfortable path.. So if you're able to really go uncomfortable, it makes your will power go though the roof. and it's pretty good for your body..
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/cold-showers-are-the-bomb.33956/

For now i will stop writing..Ow, this article blew my mind..

It's about why we should choose the more uncomfortable options..

https://gettingstronger.org/2010/05/opponent-process-theory/

If you have any questions, just asked..."
 
Great suggestions. I will try a couple and see how I progress. I guess my issue stems from wanting to be in control of everything.
 
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