Nofap, life and emotions

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by SanguineV, Jan 7, 2019.

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  1. SanguineV

    SanguineV Fapstronaut

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    First of all I must say that I'm not an english speaker so forgive me for any mistake.
    Well, I'll be direct. Does exist any connection between lack of emotions (I mean, really fucked up) with PMO?
    I'm asking this because there's been a while (few years maybe, I don't remember exactly) that I don't feel like I was supposed to feel. I don't enjoy nothing, I've no ambitions or motivation to do things. I feel like a scarecrow. I don't think this is like a depression symptom, 'cause I don't feel sad too.
    Dunno what to do anymore. I promise to myself that if i cannot improve in the next months (using nofap, exercising, eating healthy and even cold showers) I'm going to kill myself, because I'll not accept to live the rest of my life like a doll.
     
  2. Hros

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    I think there is a connection, at least to a certain level. Consider this: When you PMO, you're messing with your brain's hormones, essentially numbing your brain.
    Moreover, we often PMO as a way of "dealing" with negative emotions - whenever we are sad or angry or anxious, etc, instead of dealing with those feelings - we push them away with a very temporary solution. Several years of this and, yes, you feel mentally and emotionally numb - similar to other addictions.
    But the emotions are still there - because you haven't actually dealt with them. As you progress with your reboot, those emotions eventually flood back.
     
  3. Westsidejimmy

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    I've had that. I don't cry when I'm supposed to but then I would start bawling when listening to music. It has started to change profoundly after NoFap.
     
  4. A nu start

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    Of course. Fapping regularly turns you into not much more than a zombie. Stop it and you'll start feeling life again.
     
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    It’s definitely like that. I had the same. I did not feel anything. Only from time to time sadness. Now I’m on 281 day of my rehab and again feel the emotions. A few months ago I thought that after the previous relationship I will not fall in love again so soon, and the previous girlfriend I also stopped loving. I have felt again several times as if I could fall in love again recently. Along with this, different emotions appeared. I'm not a zombie anymore and I was so much that nobody wanted to talk to me.I've felt better before, but only recently have more life appeared in me.
     
  6. Colin75

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    Hi there Sanguine. I am quite concerned to read your last sentence. Perhaps you should see your doctor and tell him how you are feeling? Your doctor could maybe also do blood tests to check your general health. Look after yourself. And i wish you every success. Sincerely,Colin.
     
  7. Freddilmont

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    Hey bro , what u r feeling is very normal. PMO messes up our emotions giving us highs after O and then lows for the rest, then few days of rebooting makes u feel high again and all of a sudden gets u down by shifting your brain to negative thoughts. We are mentally unbalanced and i believe that a very long rebooting is needed to get balanced again. Keep it up. Dont think about killing yourself, it is not a solution. Try thinking about the good feelings u like to have and enjoy in PMO free world, i believe they r better than suciding.
    All the best
    Cheers
     
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  8. SanguineV

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    Thank you, guys. I appreciate all replies. I'm going to test this with all my self being.
    Cheers
     
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  9. But how does it work when getting into a relationship again? Having sex with a partner is a wonderful thing to experience and it should be done, right? But, if we say that PMO or MO is bad if it is the result of masturbating, is it not also bad when having O with a partner? Are the affects of an orgasm, be it through masturbation or sex, not the same?
     
  10. A nu start

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    No, they are completely different. We were designed to orgasm with a woman and at no other time. I don't know about you but I feel great after having sex. I feel like absolute crap after watching P. One of them is completely natural and something we should be aiming toward, the other is borderline pathetic and destroys self confidence.
     
  11. Thanks mate, I needed that explanation :)
    And yes, I can relate to that. I do feel a certain degree of shame after watching porn, however, to a lesser extend, or sometimes not at all, when MOing without porn. Same for you?
     
  12. Hros

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    Check out this post:
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/chemistry-class-a-lesson-in-brain-chemistry.195935/
     
  13. SanguineV

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    Just a little insight here
    A few days ago (in day 18 if I'm not mistaken), I almost cried listening to a song. I guess that can be counted as a progress, but it was very frustrating too. I reached so close to cry that I was starting to feel some tears drop, but when I were almost there, suddenly stop. I felt kinda animated with this but in ther other hand it was a crap.
    I don't know. I will continue on the path to see if I can recover my emotions and desire to live.
    Cheers
     
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  14. SanguineV

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    Well, I cried. I don't know if this is REAL good because i didn't/don't feel anything. I'm not even feel more relaxed or something, but I did it.
    Maybe I start to feel something soon.
     
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    So you feel apathetic. I felt like that at the beginning for a month or longer. I've felt the same way lately, despite being over a year on nofap. Sometimes it just is, though in the beginning it may last a little longer. Soon should be better.
     
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  16. SanguineV

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    Have you felt another benefit? I've done many streaks during my nofap attempts and regularly I feel something better in my life, but in this streak I don't feel anything different and this is making me more impatient and frustrated
     
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    I am definitely much more emotional. When I feel good, I feel confident. My mind is working better and better, I do not have such depressive moments as before. Remember that even after a year of rebooting (as in my case) there may be a moment when you will feel as if you are regressing. These are only withdrawal symptoms. Then you will feel better, as you didn’t feel before. Keep going, man.
     
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  18. SanguineV

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    Ok, thanks dude, I appreciate your replies.
     
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  19. This is due in part to repeated episodes of relapsing and is perhaps to be expected. Every subsequent relapse makes things worse and recovery longer.
     
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