Nofap makes my gay / sissy fantasies worse

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by QuietKarma, Oct 13, 2020.

  1. QuietKarma

    QuietKarma Fapstronaut

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    Hi all
    I have been struggling with a gay / crossdresser / feminization fantasy over 5 years now. I always had occassional gay and submissive fantasies in my early teens but never acted on them; this escalated when I discovered feminization ('sissy'), I realised I could hit my gay and submissive fantasies all in one and everything just clicked.

    This lead me into cycles of guilt and temptation, meeting men online but being too afraid to meet them. Buying some feminine clothes to wear, but then throwing them away before I could properly use them. The only thing that would help my problem, is, ironally fapping. When I orgasm I get a short period of relief where I am not constantly fantasising about dressing up, being dominated by a guy etc. Whenever I try nofap, my urges build to a point where they become totally uncontrollable and that's when I nearly give in by engaging in dangerous activity (dressing, chatting with local men online, etc).

    Does anyone have any advice for me? I really, really, really want to get rid of my gay, submissive, feminine fantasies, but when I try nofap the urges multiply and it's exhausting!
     
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  2. You must realize that even if a person is not addicted to porn, and still viewed 200 naked real girl, and had sex 6 times a day, this person is called a sex addicted, and this person if didnt view any naked girl or had sex, will start having emotion problems and same Withdrawal symptoms similar to porn or other hard drugs, excluding body withdrawals symptoms. anything good taken to dangerous degree can be harm-full. What im saying you are not a porn-addict, you are a cross dresser / Porn addict. So if you want to be cured you cant just attack Porn, you have to attack cross dressing as-well, in fighting pmo some people attack fantasizing, in your case your real problem is not porn its cross dressing, so the cure is in fighting cross dressing, you need to accept that first its an addiction is as well, second, it’s beatable, and third you can come up with a plan to beat, most one i can come up with, based on the experience of previously gay people here on the forum who reported them healing, you must attack any urges that say cross dressing the same way you attack a porn urge. Not only this you must start training your minding, to fighting fantasizing or these urges, so you simple say not and move on to a healthier thoughts instead of fantasizing about cross dressing / porn, this easier said than done, but you must view it a project, if you think daily about cross dressing / porn and fantasizing about a certaint scénario 20 times a day, try tomorrow to make that number 19 and step by step you will have a wider control over your thoughts, but remember you real enemy is cross dressing + porn, so if you have a thought that says lets buy a set of clothing of talk to a guy, you must not act upon that thought, because in theory acting upon it feeds the brain dopamine, and its like you had an urge and yon open up a soft-core porn, well talking to a guy here is like viewing porn, just make it your goal, or include in your new counter, not talking to guys, not buying women's clothings, and not watching porn, not masturbating not orgasming.

    after a while without acting upon the ( sissy urges or porn, and mastering no fantasizing ) you will heal faster and your sexuality will return to normal and you brain will complete a full factory reset operation, but it might take time to notice progress, so if you have cross dressing make it your goal to never act upon those urges and fight them the same way you fight porn even harder. Good luck
     
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  3. Red Eagle

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    To be honest, I don't think your gay/sissy/feminization fetish is a result of porn. You said that you had that from your teens, probably way before porn messed up your mind. Year long porn use usually changes one's sexual taste until one quits. Many straight guys start to be interested in gay porn

    Accept who you are, people have different fetishes even completely independent of porn. There is probably no way you can change them.

    Do you have any sexual interest in women? Or are you just into the sissy/feminization thing? Are you interested in men independent from the sissy/feminization fetish?
     
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  4. QuietKarma

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    Yes all of my previous relationships have been with women, Ive dated and fallen in love with women etc. I usually always check out hot girls but almost never check out guys.
    I have a very minimal / non existant attraction to men outside of being a sissy and zero attraction to men I know personally in my life.
     
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  5. Red Eagle

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    Yeah, then you are bi, pretty sure. You should go for a long Nofap streak, hardmore. If your sissy fetish doesn't go away, I don't think you can do much about it except to accept it. You're you, with all your peculiarities. We all have some.
     
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  6. Tomfer

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    Why? nothing wrong with it man.
     
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  7. InappropriateUsername

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    Nofap is not your problem. Constantly fantasizing and jerking off is. You need to stop fantasizing and jerking off—that’s just an alternate form of PMO.

    might help if you understand the gay/sissy thing too. Is this something you truly wish to explore or just an escalation of porn use?
     
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  8. SelfControlIsTheGoal

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    Talk to a mental health professional, One hour of pro help is worth 1000 forum posts man.
     
  9. Little Prince

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    I was in the same situation just weeks ago. In my latest noFAP attempt I decided to meet with a trans woman, luckily the meet was set to a few weeks and I had stopped doing noPMO and started doing noP instead which got rid of my cravings for D and whatnot...
    It's just P addiction so you have to quit P and fantasising so I suggest you do noP (no porn). Doing M will decrease your daydreaming so your mind can recover.

    I am amazed that just a few weeks ago I wanted to hook up with a guy and now I no longer have any interest in that and I am 100% straight. Ignore other people who have no idea about this issue and are just guessing things.
    You should also know that these deformed sexual desires disappear in reverse order that you got them when you recover from P addiction so you might get rid of different issues at first and not what you want the most. Just letting you know because I still have many strange fetishes, only 2 have vanished so far so it can take a bit of time.
     
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  10. QuietKarma

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    How can I go about understanding these urges? I don't feel like there is an easy way to figure all this out.
     

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