NoFap, Maturity and Alchemy.

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Thechosenone, Dec 11, 2015.

  1. Thechosenone

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    NoFap to me is a type of alchemy. It represents the transition period for me, from moving to debilitating isolation to embracing people and social situations. We are all stopping an act that we perform in the dark - by ourselves. When we do this challenge we are also effectively stopping other habits that have formed out of isolation as a result.

    Subconsciously we know these need overriding also. If you are a chronic fapper - chances are you do other isolated activities aswell such as gaming or binge TV watching (there are others, this is subjective). For me personally, I created positive isolation habits like piano learning and drawing, YouTube was big for me too. - but haven't been able to feel as good about them as I could.
    The NoFap challenge sparks a wave of self improvement that wants us to stop the isolated habits we've been cycling into our lifestyles.

    We understand addiction as a simple reward mechanism in the brain - thats been exploited leaving us worse off. The Goal of my noFap journey is to "save up" on dopamine units. By Save up i mean to reduce the habits of isolation that I use by myself such as gaming, pmo etc. and Spend these dopamine units on something that will bring me a greater sense of fulfilment. i.e. socialising and lifting weights.

    The dopamine reward circuitry strengthens the more you do an activity. So, its like a muscle. We stop the isolation habits muscle from getting any stronger and we focus on a muscle that will give us positive results instead.

    So the nofap challenge is very subjective. Some of us already have strong interactions daily and have other habits that aren't reliant on isolation - and some of us have habits that are solely for us feeding our habits of isolation.

    The truth is none of us need to feel isolated. It might feel rewarding, but we're closing ourselves off to opportunities we don't even know we want. Long story short. NoFap along with selective habit building can bring you more fulfilment. But the journey itself is a very painful one, as we're moving between polarised states of habit. Stay strong. Doesn't matter how long it takes - the key to nofap is social habit making & recognising states of isolation & habits that have arisen from isolation.

    We'll experience benefits of nofap once we mature positive habits while letting go of ones that dont serve us.

    Regards.
     
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  2. I do agree. The key to breaking any bad habit, in this case fondling oneself while watching prostitution on a screen that rewires the brain in such a terrible way, is by building new and positive habits. This video says it quite well,

     
  3. Thechosenone

    Thechosenone Fapstronaut

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    I'm aware of the book but haven't read it yet
     
  4. Me neither. Just curious if your title was inspired by it perhaps. Well this thread has inspired me to begin reading it today thanks man, always dig your insights too!
     
  5. Getting back to the topic of building relationships and socializing more, I cannot help but share 3 videos please do forgive me @Thechosenone I am a video man if you have not noticed :D. I think dudes who make videos like this and have wildly popular channels have alot to teach us, they are not afraid to show themselves to the world on the internet,





     
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    Thechosenone Fapstronaut

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    Indeed! videos are my preffered medium too, its much faster to learn. I usually have a video running in the background as I work. I'll definitely give these a listen mate! My favourite combination of channels are:
    Coach Corey Wayne (women & relationships)
    Elliot Hulse (life goals and motivation)
    Infinite Waters Diving Deep (Spirituality)

    These have helped me immensely.
     
  7. Awesome I am familiar with Infinite Waters and Elliot Hulse. Luke was inspired greatly by Elliot Hulse, he is the guy with the backwards cap, and also he has done videos with Ralph Smart aka Infinite Waters. And Shogo Garcia is great for relationship and dating advice, wow like attracts like indeed. Shogo and Luke also have done videos together. Small world.
     
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