NOfap+meditation+cold showers +...

good looking losers approach anxiety program is the shit... if you do it you'll be able to talk to any girls you want under almost any circumstances without any fear or anxiety. It helped me a ton, gave me a ton of confidence, and helped me to get laid. good luck man!

 

Dont use drugs or alcohol.

 

ALL THE INFORMATION YOU WILL EVER NEED TO GET LAID IS ON GLL. IT IS A GOLD MINE.

But here is a brief summary of my story since you asked. I would say make sure you go out and talk to girls everyday. That's what worked for me. Better results aren't that far off... I took 3 weeks to beat approach anxiety totally (I talked to 390 girls doing the drills in those 3 weeks)... then I hit on about 200 girls in my first month and got laid 3 times and retained all the girls as fuck buddies. I was on top of the world. I was 35 and had been undersexed for most of my adult life. I talked to girls pretty much everyday. I mean the drills got me started, proved I could do it and then I was like fuck this I'm not doing these stupid drills anymore and I went out to hit on girls for real.

So my advice is... you have to do whatever it takes for you! You have to swear to yourself that you're going to beat approach anxiety and learn how to get laid at least fairly consistently no matter what. For me that meant talking to around 600 girls in two months... but I beat it quick, and got results quick. You may need to talk to less girls, you may need to talk to more girls, whatever it takes go and do it. It will be worth it.

I'm not an elite player nor do I want to be... but I know I can get laid, and I know how to seal the deal quick with a girl that likes me. These are essential skills.

In all honesty you could just skip the drills and hit on girls... as long as you do it almost everyday. I mean I learned a lot from GLL and basically it's like not all girls are available, all I got to do is look good and keep hitting on girls until I find one that likes me. Plus I basically say the exact same thing every time... so a lot of the pressure is off. But I'm glad the drills are there. Just don't give up... you can't stop talking to girls. Talking to girls is the only thing that beats the anxiety and the only thing that gets you closer to getting laid.

I actually got laid last week when I was on vacation... was like the 7th girl I talked to. I can't believe how good this shit works when you find a girl that likes you. "A girl that likes you and is down to fuck will follow your lead all the way to the bedroom" haha. Don't underestimate the importance of making moves (physical advances on girls) that's what will let you know if you're getting anywhere. When I get a girl on a date this is what I focus on, making moves and then getting her to my place after. And I'm no legit player... but I've fucked 5 girls on the same day I met them, plus a handful of others, and all of this I would have never done without that site.

If you ever want chat GLL and no porn send me a PM... I can't say enough how much that steroid meat head juice monkey douchebag changed my life and helped me haha.

Good luck and don't give up

 

Okay, I started looked at his page. It's interesting how he came at his position, and given that his advice seems targeted at a younger audience, I'm not sure how well it would translate to a 40 year old (or even older, given the issues I need to deal with before I would feel comfortable starting). At present I am working on me - physical stuff, and internal issues that need to be confronted. Consider it cultivating inner game before I even want to touch approach anxiety. It's work that has to be done, and I'd rather do it now.

 

Yeah, what city you're in can affect how easy it is to find girls. I lived in Europe at the time where there are a lot more people out in the city than in the USA... so I could go out and talk to girls and get a drill done in an hour and a half. Keep going bud

 

Dude... all that "inner game" (and all the "game" stuff in general) is bullshit. People will come up with whatever excuse to avoid actually talking to girls. Because actually talking to girls you don't know is scary. Things like I have to get in shape, or I have to get confident, or I have to get better body language and eye contact, all of those are excuses to avoid talking to girls. And ready... actually talking to girls is the best thing you can do to overcome all of the insecurities around it. But nobody wants to do this, and that's why most guys are undersexed, and can't go out and get a girl in their life quickly.

If you don't have time, can't commit to talking to hundreds of girls, that's fine. There is no reason why anyone can't hit on one girl a day. Commit to hitting on one girl everyday until you have sex (put a penis in a vagina). That's a really practical easy way to commit to getting a girl in your life. But, most guys can't even talk to one girl a day... they would rather stay sexless than face their fear of actually talking to girls. Anything is easier than actually facing that fear so people come up with whatever excuse.

Right now there is a guy that is uglier than you, older than you, in worse shape than you, with a smaller dick than you, who is dating a cute girl. You know why? He had enough balls to take a chance.

So you're 40 years old? That's fine... You're age range should be like 25-40 if you are cool, have a life, look young and attractive. If you're 40 and look a little older, lost a little swag with the years then realistically look at chicks 30-40. But there is no reason why you shouldn't be having sex with chicks in their 30s. And there is no reason why this can't happen within a matter of weeks (who knows maybe the first chick you talk to will sleep with you, or maybe the 67th chick, it takes what it takes) All you got to do is talk to girls. So easy yet so difficult. The GLL guys message is so useful and so simple... basically "don't be a pussy... go talk to the girl"

When you see a girl you like at the grocery store... are you going to stare at the floor when she walks by you? How does that make you feel? What's worse? Staring at the floor like a pussy, Or hitting on the girl and getting shot down? And remember, you only need one girl to like you to get laid... you just got to find her. Good luck man.

 

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A fair call, from your perspective, but permit me to give me own. Firstly, I regard 'inner game' as confidence, and if you're seen much about what I've written, I have none. Recent trips to the gym, parkour, and even yoga this morning, have me pushing against my own humiliation. I understand that no one is there mocking me except the voices in my head, but it still sucks me down when I end up being on full display in a class, or falling so far behind in an exercise that I have to pick up.

I'll address these next points specifically at the GLL programme and why I feel I am not yet ready to undergo it. Firstly, I still consider myself 'below-average'. He makes some pretty strong arguments that one doesn't have to be elite or a 'ten' or whatever to be successful, and I accept that, even though I have a motivating goal of having lots of good sex with hot young women, 21 year old club tarts blowing me off, etc, I am not even at a position to undertake the exercises tackling approach anxiety. If I only look mediocre then I'm not going to have the level of success I need, want or deserve. 12 weeks of gym work should give me a strong enough grounding to put myself out there.

The other point is me revealing a little more about myself than I'd like - I'm still married. The relationship has been bad for a while, and despite being great friends, I don't think it's fair to continue with the relationship. The issues we have go far beyond porn use, and honestly, porn is what kept it going as long as it did. There is a requirement during the GLL programme to have a dating site account, and in addition to not being 'average' enough for establishing one without failure (to say nothing of not being able to communicate 'cool and sexy' in a photograph), I think this issue needs to be dealt with before I deal with approach anxiety.

I hope this has clarified my situation a little further - please feel free to contact me (or flame me if you must) in private.

 

Right on man. Good points. You make the decisions for your life... and only answer to yourself. If you're happy with your plan and what your doing good.

 

Please don't take anything I say personally or seriously... after all I'm just some random guy on the internet. If my experience is helpful or not whatever. You make your calls and your decisions. And all of this is private... I mean I'm just a Shakespeare guy with glasses and a gold necklace and your just some weird shape with circles. Good luck with things, no porn and a good sex life. That's what everyone here deserves. Go get it homie!

 

Thank you. I wasn't taking anything you said as necessarily bad, but I felt it worth being honest. I had just had an open conversation with the SO, and while P was mentioned, she didn't consider it an issue as much as the lack of communication and honesty on my part.

As for picture, it's meant to represent a 'Seeker-Achiever' on a personality test I took a number of years ago.

 

Please speak for yourself. From your first post that basically says "do this to get laid." An interaction with women should be more meaningful than just looking to get some sex. Thanks to staying away from porn and masturbation for so long my eyes are now beginning to become truly open. I know PMO induced objectifing/clouding my idea about women. Hopefully you stay sober enough to reach this stage my friend. Best wishes to you on your journey!

 

That is a wise advice, from addiction to pornography to sex addiction is just one step. I prefer to stop being a slave to any addiction, that is to live a happy and healthy life.