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NoFap Newcomer here, any tips or advice

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Beatus, Sep 14, 2019.

  1. Beatus

    Beatus Fapstronaut

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    Good evening everyone (at least in my part of the world),

    I have had enough. I finally realized the destructive infuence porn is having on my life. I might be studying at a good university, be surrounded with friends and family, have an amazing gf, I still can feel that at times I am not in control of my own life.

    My urges prevent me from achieving more and became an avoidance strategy.
    I masturbate at least 3 times a day, every single day (with some rare exceptions). I have had enough of being enslaved to my urges, of objectifying women, and thinking with my knob instead of my head.

    Hence why I am punishing/helping myself but quitting PM for 30 days, as I feel that would be the adequate price to pay for my vices.

    Is this too big a goal to aim for as a beginner? I know the first days will be the hardest, any personal experiences you are willing to share to help me in my journey?

    Thank you in advance.
     
  2. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use theNoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | ForumRules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the manychallenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  3. rafael33

    rafael33 Fapstronaut

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    Welcome to the Nofap community.
    The NO PMO journey is not easy but worth the effort.
    The community will support you.

    Personal experience? Long time ago (there was no internet and no Nofap) I had two 6-months-NO PMO-streaks and this was only possible because I focused on what I really want: true happiness.
    Urges may become extremely strong - my strategy is not to fight against the urges but to focus on something more attractive. There is an inner beauty inside each one of us which waits to be discovered.
    I never was P addicted and I realized to be M addicted. So I do my little effort to get rid of addiction and I don’t make Nofap a new religion in my life. Sex is not Nr. 1 in my life, money is not Nr. 1 in my life - it’s life itself. What really matters is setting the right priorities. Getting rid of addiction definitely is helpful.
     
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  4. Beatus

    Beatus Fapstronaut

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    Thank you both for your replies! It certainly is a tremendous help to be surrounded by understanding, judgement-free Fapstronauts. Relising you are not alone, having a safe space for expressing feelings like these can only help my mind grow and improve my life.
    I wish you luck in your journeyx, may they be fruitful.
     
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  5. Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

    Then secondly I just strongly advise you to be active on your profile(as there quite a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

    People (are beginning to) love communicating in the profilesection..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal. Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys. We could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

    Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys.

    Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     

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