Tip 1: Tell a female friend of you that you are an PMO addict Yes, it sounds uncomfortable, like directly saying that you see women as a sex object, but you will feel such an huge shame because of it. I personally can't explain it, why, but it works for me. It's probably the most efficient motivation-booster for you guys. Tip 2: When having an urge, go deeply into your mind I read this once on reddit: A guy explained, that when you have an urge, and when you visualize yourself of having an urge who also visualize of you having an urge, you are so completely "lost" in your mind that your urge simply goes away. Tip 3: Do not say to yourself "I stop PMO completely", say "I stop PMO for a week" And after a week, you say it to yourself again. It's like pseudo-cooperating with your addiction, which makes your challenge easier. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- They are gonna be more tips, if you also know some extraordinary tips, you can continue this list. Remember: Please no "boring" tips like "Meditation", "Cold Showers", ...
Good stuff, but I wouldn't say there are "boring" tips. All tips are good tips, but I do like your "go deeply into your mind". I think it's generally a good attitude to have for a lot of things. My female friend knows about my P watching habits, but I wasn't taking it seriously until recently and she wasn't either, taking the cue from me. Bad thing, I realize now. It's like I was proud of it. My tip - I'm testing out right now "the impossibly long no-PMO period proposition" i.e. 1000 days. I think it plays a good "trick" on the mind. This way I can't keep the thought in the back of my mind that says "I just need to last this 3 month reboot period and then I'm free to start PMO over" OR "I said I'll stop forever, but I know that's impossible so I know I'll relapse". It's a question of putting it all in a different scale, having a different attitude, knowing that I can't fail too early, after making such a claim. This 1000 day challenge puts me in the state of mind where I am saying to myself - "What is the highest number I could do to prove to myself that I am control of my habits, of my life. Is it doable? Oh, it's doable... if I do everything right and control myself." This is probably the best attitude to have. It's like I've put more than just myself on the line... I guess the desire to keep my pride intact is helping me too. Of course, there's a chance I can relapse, no shame in that too, really.
I like the 2 and 3 tips, but i totally reject the first one. Why? because i did, and female friends doesnt care a shit about that hahah, they dont care!. The best is to be at AP Group
It's not about make them worry about your PMO-addiction, it's about the shame you feel afterwards which can be a motivator to break the PMO-habit. My female friend doesn't care about that too, and I don't give a f*ck about that.
Tip 4: If you have an urge, look up on this link (Warning! It could kinda disgust you) https://i.imgur.com/EZSdKvp.gifv It worked for me today pretty well! Found this on reddit today. Tip 5: Look on the great picture Give love, not egoism. You PMO because you think of yourself, think of others instead and of the greater picture. I mean feeling love towards others and thinking emotionally of spending time together with your friends/family is a really great urge killer, too.
Go for a motorcycle ride hitting 80 mph in under 4 seconds without winter gear in sub 40 deg weather. You get a hit of adrenaline and you freeze everything nice and cold.
Tip 5 - Find (safe) activities which boost your adrenaline levels Tip 6 - Seek humor Tip 7 - A tip for Anime-fans Tip 8 - Never take NoFap too emotionally I took it, I've relapsed and now I am desperate. Concentrate on giving love/spending time together/... (just on these things you want to have improved when doing NoFap) and see NoFap as a side issue (like taking supplements in everyday life e.g.)
Tip 9- Have panic buttom when doubs come to your mind https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2km5lu/my_personal_panic_button/ http://yourbrainonporn.com/big-list-tips-tricks
Tip 10 - Accept an urge, don't fight it It's like suppressing thoughts - They eventually get stronger. When an urge suddenly pops up in your brain, don't try to ignore it, observe your body, how do you exactly feel, ... Tip 11 - Another urge killer: Imagine as disgusting as possible other people jerking off to porn And by breaking your streak, you're gonna be one of those! Tip 12 - Imagine you are already the person you want to become after NoFap At least this helps and motivates me.
Tip 14 - You fantasize because you have a opportunity/time to fantasize, not because you are horny. Stay busy! When I have school, I have so much work to do that I don't fantasize (and therefore, I have no urges). When I relapse, it's always on weekends, because I have time to fantasize/to relapse.
My tip comes with a prerequisite: What is the thing you most desire doing (not including sleeping) after O (regardless of the means of achieving it). Next time you feel an urge--do that. The other extreme may work as well. That is, if you've been putting something off, it's possible that, without the libido at work, it may serve as a way to gain momentum in self-confidence which I find is helpful in maintaining sobriety. Perhaps even make a list of things you've been putting off so that you have a ready made "go to" list when at risk. I really like one of the Emergency memes: "Hey, whatever you should be doing right now....go fucking do it." I just relapsed and thought of these ideas out from under the clouds of escape and libido.
I might add, playing some loud music in your room (because I think mkst of the relapses happen in the bedroom and when alone ), maybe rock, metal, Christian, pop, electronic, and all those other genres of music. It distracts the mind and I mean, who doesn't like to imagine themselves as the lead singer of a certain band right?
If you want to sign to Monk Mode 2016: http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/monk-mode-2016.55207/ BTW: Cool tips, thanks for sharing!
This! This one! This is emotional intelligence bro! It's very true. Every time I try to suppress an urge, and it works for like a day or just a few hours, it comes back.. nasty and angry! The actual solution is to think about it, and sit face to face with your urge and ask it: "what's up b*tch?! You want a piece of me?!"
