NoFap while going thru breakup

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Teejmaster, Oct 24, 2017.

  1. Teejmaster

    Teejmaster Fapstronaut

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    Broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years almost 2 months ago. Day 30 here on NoFap and I'm in a flatline, however my libido has spiked the past few days and I'm starting miss my ex again. Hard to not masturbate to our old videos (haven't watched them in NoFap journey) Anyone else been through a similar situation?
     
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  2. Poseidon

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    What happened? Why did you break up with her ?
     
  3. Evig Faith

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    What do you miss about her? Do you miss HER, or do you just miss the sex?
     
  4. Teejmaster

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    We aren't compatible as a couple, but we had great sex in the beginning of the relationship. Around January 2017 we both got more involved with our school work and didn't have sex a lot. Maybe twice a month. because of this I began to PMO. A lot. 3-4 times a day. And when we did have sex she was self conscious Bc I get boners because of PIED. I miss her physicality I guess. Feels like I won't have sex again for a long time. So I guess I just miss the sex and memories.
     
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  5. Teejmaster

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    Couldn't***
     
  6. Merovingian

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    You should maybe think about deleting the old videos, I used to keep a catalog if you will of my former ex's as "memories" but took a hard look at myself and realized it was a component of my addiction. Also watching those old video's will stoke the neural pathway that was formed when you fell in love, which will delay you moving on.
     
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  7. SolitaryScribe

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    I'm kind of going through a similar situation currently. Although my relationship didn't really last all that long. It still sucks because images of her keep poping in my head. At times I'm tempted to contact her and see if we can try to work it out, just to get that sense of intimacy again.

    I've never been in a relationship for 4 whole years and honestly I don't know what long term relationships are like. But it seems to me they kind of go downhill after the first year...
     
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  8. lamstronger

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    In my case, when I broke up with my girlfiend, I missed the sex. Having those memories of the good times we had ibed made it hard. I guess finding a new person of interest helps with forgetting about your ex.
     
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  9. when my last guy dumped me i was really devastated. yes, i missed the sex with him but most of all i loved him and it hurt so much not being with him anymore. this breakup motivated me to start my reboot on 6th March 2017. in a few days it will be 8 months i quit my addictions for good. use your breakup in the same way, focus on improving yourself and quit this addiction that made you a slave. p ruins every aspect of your life, you know that. being free of this addiction is an amazing feeling. i have hope now. when i was an addict, there was no hope and thought i just had to live with it. my last breakup was rock bottom and i knew that the failure of my last relationship was also damaged primarly by my addictions. you can do it! :emoji_muscle:

    have you ever posted videos when you had sex with this ex gf or other girls? I am a girl and to 2 exes i asked after if they recorded me when we had s coz i was very afraid to end up in those sites
     
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  10. SolitaryScribe

    SolitaryScribe Fapstronaut

    Honestly it was a bit of a relief when I saw it said female under your profile. No offense to gays but on this site you never know if its a girl or a guy when someone is talking about having sex with a man lol...
     
  11. KingOfAllMedia

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    Gpimg throught this exact situatuon. Breaking up after almost 4 years as a result of pmo. Seperated for a week now and rebooting. I feel your pain.
     
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  12. KingOfAllMedia

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    Ive made videoes with every gf ive had and god no thats evil!
     
  13. Teejmaster

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    My girlfriend let me record us and was comfortable with it. I would never post the videos anywhere lol. Not me.
     
  14. Teejmaster

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    In it together brother
     
  15. OriginalStormblast

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    Delete the pics and videos man.

    I'm going through a similar thing right now, recently broke up with a girl after 2 years. I had a catalogue of old pics and videos that I straight up wiped from my phone and memories.

    In keeping those memories and pics it would have been difficult for me to let go completely and move on to the next chapter of my life. And all it would have done was feed into the addicitive pmo cycle.

    I have not had sex since we broke up and I also have no idea when the next time I have sex will be.
    It's pretty tough because I miss the intimacy we shared.

    I am doing my best to stay strong and not get to caught up in chasing the next bang.

    This will make me a better person.
     
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  16. Teejmaster

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    I'll definitely check it out bro
     
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  17. some people are evil though. asking it to those guys i had, i was also obsessed by that coz i knew p, how people did it (i watched every kind of p for 7 years) and I had some doubts that they recorded me. I went through a very big depression also because of that, that people could recognize me for it (the way one held his phone, a stuff on the ceiling a sort of smoke detector was changing colour). i never said this to anyone other than those guys i had dated. it is very humiliating for me admitting these fears

    i didn't want to be seen for months, i bleached my hair, I felt awful. I am not that person anymore. quitting my s and p addictions saved me. My faith in God was the biggest help I had in this battle. without God, i don't know what would have happened to me
     
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  18. A break up is one of the toughest situations to deal with because you want to watch porn so badly to deal with the stress, pain and bullshit. I say trusting the process and staying with NoFap is your best bet and meeting other women to get your mind off your ex.
     
  19. gingeralan

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    I am just going thru a divorce, together for way too long(11 years) married for three. We just aren't compatible. It's difficult going the nofap thing, but i know Pmo makes me feel bad. So while i have to deal with lows, it's better than having massive highs, followed by lower lows.

    When get a decent stint of stopping PMO i do feel much better, and more able to function. Nearly 7 days now, have done 22 days since i decided i wanted to give this up for good. It's a long game and does mean you don't have that instant relief from the stresses of breaking up. But i think once you get over your PMO you'll find the rest of your life much better
     

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