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NoFap whilst in a relationship and low sex-drive

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by zerobrainwash, Aug 28, 2015.

  1. Aug 28, 2015 #1
    zerobrainwash

    zerobrainwash New Fapstronaut

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    Have any of you done NoFap challenge on hard mode during the relationship? I think I have a moderate form of PIED meaning it doesn't prevent me and girlfriend from having oral sex but vaginal sex is almost impossible. Surprisingly and somewhat scarily, for past two weeks I haven't PMO'd at all with zero struggle and my sex-drive is a mere shadow of what it used to be a few years back. Do you think this is a so-called flatline?

    Also, what are your thoughts on doing NoFap whilst in a relationship, especially if the girl has high sex-drive and if not for my ED would have sex every day? I'm thinking it's unfair to her to stay in such relationship where I'm doing NoFap, and instead offer to stay friends until I get better and if by then she's still single, try to get back together again. We have been together only a month but the bond is close, and I'd hate to lose her. Also, before the relationship I had no idea I would have problems having intercourse. If I did, I would have done NoFap before getting together with anyone but now I'm already stuck so to speak.

    Also, I'd like to add I went to urologist today to speak about ED and he just gave me Spedra, a type of viagra. Do you think it's worth giving it a shot? Does it break the rules of NoFap?
     
    zerobrainwash, Aug 28, 2015
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  2. Aug 28, 2015 #2
    | Master Chief |

    | Master Chief | Fapstronaut

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    The problem is you had completely lost your lobido and you were relying on intense stimulation from porn to even get you up in the first place.

    I lost my lobido for about 2 weeks after nofap, and then it started to come back a bit. I think the best thing you could do is refrain from fapping/porn/sex entirely for a while, and just pleasure your girlfriend.

    I know you might miss the intimacy of vaginal sex, but use this time to get good at oral and other things. Why don't you buy a strap on and do your girlfriend that way?

    It's not gonna be good for you, but it will likely keep her satisfied. Just make sure not to buy one too big as you don't want to finally get better only to find your girlfriend prefers the strap on!
     
    | Master Chief |, Aug 28, 2015
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  3. Aug 28, 2015 #3
    zerobrainwash

    zerobrainwash New Fapstronaut

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    Interesting suggestion, @| Master Chief |. Even though I consider myself pretty open-minded, I feel as if the strap-on will decrease my self-worth even further in this regard so at least for now I'll steer away from it. Anyhow, the girl in question is surprisingly supportive so that's good news. I will be doing the 90-day challenge for sure but not clear yet if in hard or easy mode yet, will check more literature about it. Thanks for support.
     
    zerobrainwash, Aug 28, 2015
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