NoFap2015

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  1. Ramy

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    Welcome to the ultimate NoFap2015 Challenge,

    In the challenge the participants do not masturbate, edge or watch porn intentionally for a whole year, starting from January 1st, 2015 until January 1st, 2016.

    Rules:
    1. No masturbation, edging or watching porn.
    2. There is only 1 chance. If any member breaks the basic rule, he/she disqualifies him/herself from the challenge and the accountability group.
    3. No one can join after the challenge begins. Every participant must join the group before January 1st, 2015.
    4. Every participant must set a separate PMO counter and set a year as a goal starting January 1st.
    5.For each successful month of NoFap, participants get awarded a US army rank title, and they could set their avatar to an image of the rank they reached as a motivation factor.

    To join the accountability group click: NoFap2015 Challenge

    Remember..

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    Stay strong.
     
    Last edited: Dec 28, 2014
  2. Ramy

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    Why take the challenge?

    This question will be answered by a guy who managed to get rid of this curse:

    It can be tough to stay motivated during the ups and downs of a a no-PMO reboot. Here are 10 commonly experienced rebooting benefits to motivate you to stay the course.

    1. You will be able to have great sex again.
    All of that negative baggage surrounding sex: problems with getting and sustaining erections; performance anxiety; unrealistic expectations - all of that stuff gets better when you give up using porn.

    After a successful reboot, you will be able to have great, fulfilling, passionate sex again – without the penis pills and anxiety. For me, getting my sex life back was the number one reason I quit, and it is the number one reason I STAY quit.

    Here is one guy’s experience of re-experiencing sex:

    I never thought I had ED…I managed to have sex with my wife. Boy, was I wrong! Since my recovery, my erections are way bigger, fuller and longer and the head is flared. My wife comments each time. I also remain erect even after orgasm, and think I could keep it up for a long time. My morning wood is also bigger and fuller. I just shrug and laugh each morning, now that I realize I really had ED and was too caught in my addiction to realize it. Keep in mind I am 50, though in pretty good shape for my age and clean living. I believe you will find the sensitivity of your penis improves all on its own. I am circumcised (wish I was not). The sensitivity is so much better than I ever remember. Very light touch by my wife feels so strong! Now, after 68 days of no masturbation to porn my erections are like in my teens!

    And another guy:

    I have gone trough months without real sex and its devastating to the self confidence. But in the last couple weeks I have had a lota sex. All my anxiety towards sex has changed into confidence in my sexuality. I experienced a bad breakup a couple of years ago and this seems to have pushed me towards an isolated place. The devastation of experiencing ED a couple of times with real girls just pulled me down to a darker place. I can see things more clearly now because my head is above the water

    If getting back your sex life were the only, single benefit to rebooting, I still feel the struggle would be 100% worth it.

    2. Increased energy and drive.
    Many of the great achievements of man have been created by transforming what we might call “sexual frustration” into focused creative energy. And what a powerful force it is!

    3. You have more time to do awesome things with your life.
    Many guys find that after they quit porn, huge blocks of time open up in their life. And as boredom is a common catalyst for relapse, it’s important to fill up your calendar with things to keep you busy.

    Coming from the other side of a successful reboot, I see this as a HUGE opportunity to change your life for the better. Not just in relation to sex. Why not use all that extra free time to make your life more awesome?

    In fact, this is exactly what many guys do during their reboot. They use that abundance of free time to improve themselves, join classes, get ripped at the gym, learn how to talk to girls, start a new sport…

    On this topic, some guys ask me: how can I attract girls and get them interested in me? Well, the way to BE more interesting to women is to DO more interesting things. Start there and the changes will happen naturally. :) So, why not use that extra time to take up a new hobby (Mixed martial arts maybe? Learning the guitar?), learn a language, or read personal development books (My favorites: Awaken the Giant Within, , The Power of Less, Art of Non-Conformity,The Power of Habit, and anything by Tim Ferriss). Looking at rebooting as an opportunity to grow can be a game-changer.

    4. Decrease in social anxiety, increased confidence and self-esteem.
    Many guys report lower social anxiety and a general increase in confidence in social situations. Personally, I feel MUCH more confident talking to people I don’t know and even in public speaking situations than before.

    In the forums, there are many reports that echo this guy’s experience:

    Once again, very relaxed and calm today – no anxiousness etc. of any sort. Everything is just water off a ducks back so to speak. It really is a powerful side effect of no PMO and one I am quite taken with. When I say calm and relaxed, I am not talking about the brain foggy, semi conscious type of calm that you can get from binging! With this calm and ease I am totally and utterly present. It‘s a huge difference.

    And here’s another guy:

    There’s this girl in one of my classes. She’s gorgeous. I’ve never had such an easy time flirting (while sober lol). Everything that came from my mouth was golden. If there was a silence or break in conversation, I just sat with it. And most the time she would be the one to start it up again. I used to feel like I always had to be saying something/keeping her attention. Not now. I was calm and confident. It’s been a while since I let myself pursue a girl. I forgot how fun it is. We’re hanging out Sunday. Pretty excited.”

    5. You’ll be more social.
    All that free time and energy you have? It has to go somewhere. Many guys find that their social calendars fill up as they start paying more attention to their friends and saying “yes” to social invites that they used to ignore.

    (Also note that a feeling of isolation is what often leads to porn addiction in the first place — so, make the effort to get out and meet people! )

    6. Increased focus and concentration.
    Many men report increased ability to concentrate after abstaining from porn for some time. For me personally, it was like a fog was lifted from my brain and I was able to think much clearer. I even noticed that my memory improved over the course of my reboot, to the point where friends commented on it.

    Here’s one forum posters’ experience:

    Anyone else notice increased concentration? I’ve always had issues focusing. In college I didn’t do well unless I was on adderall. I was unable to finish a book unless it was extremely interesting. My mind would just bombard me with a million ideas or urges making it difficult to study or read. Anytime I’m on nofap my concentration skyrockets. I just finished a book yesterday that I have been meaning to read for the past 6 months. I’ve also had better luck applying for jobs and working on projects.

    7. You’ll be naturally horny.
    Would it surprise you if I said that cutting out masturbating and porn will motivate you to meet real women? Really? You’re surprised?

    In my experience, when I’m off porn, my libido level with my girlfriend is through the roof. If I don’t see her for a week, the sexual energy when we finally do meet is explosive! And I’ve noticed that I’m more sexually attracted to women in my day-to-day life (on the street, in yoga class, etc).

    8. You’ll connect with REAL women.
    Remember that feeling of self-loathing and emptiness you feel after using porn? What you’re missing is a connection with a REAL woman.

    From talking to many guys, it seems that it’s a deep sense of loneliness that turned them to porn in the first place. Learn how to make connections with real women and create loving relationships, and you’ll never go back to porn.

    Here’s one guy’s experience:

    I now have a snuggle buddy. We just watch a movie together once in a while, while holding each other. It’s a good situation because there is no pressure. And I really have to say, real women are so much better than porn. It feels so great. I think it’s what I’ve been craving for most of my life.

    And another guy’s experience:

    There’s this cute-as-a-button girl who works at the place where I get lunch, and today…I flirted with her! Well, it may have been a cross between flirting and being folksy, but in any case, I haven’t acted like that toward a girl since SHORTLY AFTER I STARTED COLLEGE (about 5 years ago). It was unplanned and very natural. In time, I think I’ll return to being the smoothy I was in high school. And I can now conceive of myself having a girlfriend (whereas before, I couldn’t even imagine it). This is so much better than the introverted, masturbatory lifestyle I was leading.

    9. Increase in willpower.
    In her book The Willpower Instinct, Kelly McGonigal writes about how the amount of willpower we have at our disposal every day is a finite resource, but importantly that we can build up our “willpower muscles” by regularly exercising them. Rebooting gives us plenty of practice using and strengthening these muscles, as well as teaching us coping strategies for self-control.

    Here’s a typical quote from a rebooter about what the increase in will power helped him accomplish:

    (Rebooting) did many things for me: I was able to curb other addictive cravings like cigarettes, marijuana, sugary foods and overeating. I also had way more energy and found it easier to exercise.

    10. Sense of achievement.
    There’s a sense of personal power and achievement that comes with overcoming a huge difficult personal obstacle like porn addiction (and in my case, PIED). It’s a kinda quiet knowledge that you can accomplish anything you want in other areas of your life. After my struggle with porn addiction and my successful recovery from PIED, I feel like I’m up for any challenge thrown my way.
     
    Last edited: Dec 27, 2014
  3. NF SINCE BIRTH

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    Im looking forward to this!

    I have a question to everybody: How do we make sure that everyone make it trough 2015 without any relapses?
     
    Last edited: Dec 27, 2014
  4. Whatever

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    We can't make sure. Why should everyone make it through? They are free human beings, it is their choice wheter they engage in self destructive behaviour or not...
    If you want to not masturbate you do not, if you want to then you do. It is a matter of directing the will, a matter of choice.
     
  5. NF SINCE BIRTH

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    My last question may look simple but it can probably be answered in a 300 pages master degree.
    Im yust going to continue to ask a few questions before starting on this ultimate Challenge.

    How bad do you want to quit? You have to make nofap Your no.1 priority. You have to tell yourself that no matter what gets thrown at you, you wont touch yourself. You have to throw everything possible at Your addiction. With time it will loose its Power.

    Even tough Your main goal is to abstain for an entire year, you should shift Your focus. The most important thing on this Journey is what you do on a day to day basis. Do you think you can abstain for a single day? Offcourse you do! Make a commitment to abstain for today. Its time to worry about tommorrow when tommorrow comes. The days will add up so dont fall into the trap of thinking: "Holy Guacamole, did i yust sign up for an entire year?! :O"

    Please understand what im saying on a deep Level. This is two really powerfull Tools if you use them correctly :)
     
  6. NF SINCE BIRTH

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    Thanks for Your input Whatever :) You have a solid point. You have to really want the change to happen. The moment you realize this, nothing can stop you ;D
     
  7. Ramy

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    We don't know, it'll be your own responsibility alone right when it's January 1st at 12:00 A.M.. It's your choice either to succeed at at for YOU, or you relapse and "fail" and return to the sad self that you joined this very forum to escape from. The accountability group and the participants can't offer more than a few words to keep each other motivated, but the rest is on you, you will be the one staying nights all alone with a computer and a high speed internet, you will be the one alone naked in the shower everyday, you will be the one who feels the temptation and urges and horniness of your own body, no one could help you then but YOU, so it's a one shot game, either you DO IT or you FAIL. and in both cases you will get to live with your choice, either happily ever after... or pathetic with a depressed mentality and sore genitals and smelling like cum.
     
  8. Ramy

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    I think this is VERY important, and I actually said that before back when I started this whole thing, the idea of thinking about this challenge like "OMG A YEAR?!", this WILL make you relapse, even after we start the challenge, just thinking about it or counting days and hours WILL make you relapse, and I mean it.
    The challenge title says "a year without PMO", but we should all agree that it's actually a "FOREVER" thing, simply because if you go a whole year without PMO and right after the year is over you start watching porn and masturbating again, this will mean you have a SERIOUS PROBLEM, and you might need mental care, so right when the challenge begin you should be aware that you're getting rid of this habit forever, and there is no chance for you to get back to it, you can have sex as much as you want with your partner, you can EVEN MAKE THEM MASTURBATE YOU, but you are NOT allowed to touch yourself, because you know very well where this could take you, because you are already on this site, this means you DO have a problem and an addiction that you need to quit.
    So yes it's a forever thing. It's a LIFE STYLE now. Change your life or you are never going anywhere.
     
  9. UncleSamPatriot

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    Count me in the challenge!
     
  10. Ramy

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    You're very welcome, just click the group's link and join.
     
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    thx for putting in all the effort needed to make this challenge very inspiring Ramy ,
     
  12. Ramy

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    It's really nothing my friend, I just hope this will work and everyone participating succeeds so we quit this forever and be better.
     
  13. Ramy

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    We are now 40+ :). wonder how many of us will actually go all the way. hopefully everyone. :)
     
  14. KingRecover17

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    Ramy remember when you said after every month of NoFap (NoFap Challenge) the person would get a reward what was that reward???
     
  15. Ramy

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    It'll be as said in the rules:
    5.For each successful month of NoFap, participants get awarded a US army rank title, and they could set their avatar to an image of the rank they reached as a motivation factor.

    Ranks.jpg

    12 ranks for 12 months, and the idea was our friend's (Whatever).
     
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  17. toomuchnoyes

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    I'm in. Should be a good year.
     
  18. Ramy

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    You're in. :)
     
  19. Ramy

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    It will be if we really want it to be. :) Let's do this.
     
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    We are now 50+ with 3 days to go. :) going to be so exciting. :)
     
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