Not attracted to him anymore!

You're not wrong. If he's making fun of you and your physical appearance then I advise you to leave him. He even uses pornography and lied to you about dipping on it. I don't see why you're still with this dude.

 

Hey this guy is a loser and totally un self aware, throw his to the curb

 

I have to agree here, he sounds like a piece of shit, if it's not working for you anymore, you have to leave for your own sanity.

 

If he tells you things like that and you don't love him anymore, do you still have reasons to stay with him? I know people who are insecure about themselves transfer their own insecurity on other people. I'm sure there are guys who would like you just the way you are.

 

Addicted to porn or not, someone who talks to you like that and degrades you is not worth your time. You deserve love and respect. There is someone out there that will treat you right.

 

Porn and masturbation is something you need to figure out if you want it in your relationship... flirting with other woman is a disrespect to you. That's not acceptable.

Always trust your feelings.

He can be just playing. You have to look the way he is telling you this. Maybe he is just having fun with you, and you can tell him some funny comment about his body to return him the choke..

This is not acceptable, he is making a fun of you in front of another person. Again, that's disrespectfull.

You are with a man that make you felt depressed.. you should be with a man that make you happy. A man that make you a better woman. He ain´t it.

You are with a man that lies to you.. he have no integrity, maybe he doesn't respect you because you are putting up with all this crap he is throwing at you.

Generally when a woman is in love with a guy, don't have eyes for another man... but when she is not she start to look for a replacement.. when that happens is easy to know that his current man is no longer an option and is ready lo move to another man.

Yeap.. you are definitevely turned off by your man and you started to look what other man are available.

You are not.. he turned you off in many ways. Move on, you are going to be better off without him.

 

One of my ex told me the same thing and it was a joke but I didn't see anything funny about it just like you.

Women tend to tolerate and justify such a behavior from their partner thinking that he probably doesn't mean it like that etc. As I said I think it's their own insecurity or some other issues and not acceptable.

 

As an addict, I can tell you that we do project our insecurities on other people, most of all our SO's, in fact I'd feel confident in saying that all of us do it, so it's not unique to your other half.

I'm getting an handle on it personally, but only the men that want to change will only go through doing so, sometimes guys just don't want to or they can't see past their addiction.

 

I hear you, sister. It's very hard for a woman to stay attracted to a man she doesn't respect. Porn addiction is an extremely unattractive trait; it tells us that a man is unreliable and has no control over himself. Women are drawn to secure men, which is the absolute opposite of someone with a compulsive disorder. It makes biological sense too; why would a woman choose to spend her fertility on someone that's always "tapped out" and prone to mental and physical infidelity? Someone who is in a constant state of low grade depression? What kind of potential father to her unborn children is a man like that?

Optimism and charm is vital to keep the spark; wankers tend to loose these qualities over time. Hormonal shifts could also be a reason these men aren't as appealing as men who doesn't have these problems.

So what to do? Well, for you, nothing. This is his work, if he wants to keep you. If you find someone better, go for it. It sounds harsh, but he had the chance to be loyal, and if he can't keep up then there is certainly no reason for you to torture yourself.

As for the comments about your body, it truly sounds like a man who "in order to feel tall feel the need to chop other people's heads of". No wonder you feel drawn to other guys! He works so hard for you to fall out of love with him it would be funny if it wasn't so sad...

Many men here will of course imply that you are a skank if you move on with someone else and don't tolerate his infidelities. Porn addicts in general want a saintly woman that conveniently rolls out to form a little absorbant carpet for him to walk all over. But in a world filled with hunky, pleasant and loyal men I think that's a bit of a delusion, don't you?

 

It's the whole Madonna/Whore complex that makes porn possible in the first place.

Women are assigned different roles based on what men need in various contexts, and one thing all designated female roles have in common is that they require a total commitment on the part of the woman (her whole life), while the role she's playing is just one aspect of many that enriches and supports men's lives.

Porn-performing women are entirely defined by that role and never escape it or live it down, and the saintly Mommy type must devote all her life force energy to prop up the man while trying to maintain her own sanity. Each role dominates the woman's entire existence, while men are understood to be muti-faceted, complex individuals with balanced responsibilities and nuanced psychologies.

 

At the same though - as addicts we're also simultaneously amazed everyone else doesn't think like us. To me I always assumed everyone had thoughts like me, they were just better at hiding it or somehow had partners that we're also on board. The addict part of me wanted my wife to have thoughts like me, and thought other wives were like that behind doors. The logical part of me knew I was the one outside the norm and I needed to keep it a secret and if I was honest with anyone about my thoughts they would hate me and I had to hide it or *else*.

I love the fact my wife is strong-willed and wicked smart and outgoing with her honesty and emotions. I look up to her so much on so many aspects. I pray my kids are more like her than me.

 

Why do you stay?

 

Hey, I know I'm still a kid, But I'll try my best. Porn has fucked up his mind. His thoughts seem to be not pure anymore. Take it from a guy who did really bad things because porn had also affected my mindset. Before NoFap, my thoughts were turning evil or it wasn't pure anyone. I started looking at women like some objects. Let alone women, I was starting to see my own cousins I grew up with that way I hated that I lost my innocence after I found porn. Slowly, one day I did something so bad that anyone would be disgusted by knowing about it. I knew deep down porn had affected me and realized it's time to stop porn. After 8 months of no PMO( Yes sadly I relapsed, still fighting). My thoughts were purified. During that time, I never looked at women once like some object and start to appreciate her personality and traits. The truth is porn makes us slowly start looking at women like sex objects and it's difficult to love someone if you look at someone like a sex object. If he's mature enough to realize it, Do introduce him to NoFap, Else there's nothing you can do about it than leave him, cuz I think he would be in a relationship just for sexual needs