I find this a really difficult post to make, so please bear with me. I have had a long term porn addiction. Also, I often catch myself ogling women in public (ie I find them attractive at a physical level). I often find that I am unable to connect emotionally or intellectually with my partner. I can feel connection with some other people though. Often I don't find my partner physically attractive, despite being able to look at her and rationally see she is. I am uncertain how much of our problems with attraction and connection are caused by pornography addiction and how much is it not being the right fit? Perhaps, in part, my porn addiction is exacerbated by not being able to have an emotional and intellectual connection with my partner? I crave that. And how much is the counter? I realise I am asking a question that no one here can know the answer to with certainty, but I wanted to get it off my chest and also to see if anyone can shed some light on it or suggest another angle?