Not sure what to do

If you don't want to have an orgasm, don't have sex.
If you do, have sex.
if the reason you don't want to have sex is because of the nofap "challenge", have sex.
Its called "nofap" not nosex, you get a lot more out of a sexual experience with someone else rather than using your hand for a half hour.

In my opinion have sex, enjoy it and continue the nofap "challenge" after

 

That's certainly how I'm working it out. It just depends on your goals. Mine is to have a normal, conjugal life, so I don't abstain from sex with my husband. (Although because of my severe DE, ot amounts to the same thing, in some respects. )

 

Most people agree that sex does not reset the counter. The ultimate goal of NoFap is to have a healthy sex life with a real human. BUT for a lot of men it creates a chaser effect so it makes them want to fap more after they have sex if that's you don't. Also you may have performance issues and early in your recovery you are very emotionally sensitive and so if the sex does not go well it could send you into a fapping spiral. When you are in a relationship the usual advice is to share what you are doing and why so the girl understands but if it's new I'm thinking you don't want to do that. The only advice I can give is do not use your hand at all during intercourse if you have it tell yourself you will only O from her. Using your hand usually makes you more inclined to fap later.

 

I agree with this post .