Not texting her back... is a good thing?

That really is a mystery to me. I guess replying instantly can make you seem like you are too clingy, like you are sitting there waiting for their text, but really it doesn't make sense because everyone receives texts at the same speed. when i was in a relationship, we texted back instantly, but i guess that is not a good example because that didn't work out.

 

She's just lazy.

Problem solved.

 

It's hard to say. She may not be into you. She may not want you to think she is too clingy. She may just bee lazy like Starlord said, or maybe she really just doesn't have time to reply. Who knows. I wouldn't worry to much about it though as long as you guys have good dates. if they aren't good, she may want to distance herself from you.

 

You sound a little needy to me. Good thing you're venting here and not to her because you'd probably scare her off. The woman works 12 hours a day / graveyard shift? Give her a break.

 

true. I understand your wanting to see more of her, but maybe give her time and that will sort things out. it is hard to balance weird work hours, friends and a relationship, so it is very possible she could just be too tired.

 

The only thing worse than a girl that won't text back is one that texts all the fucking time.

You're dating a woman that doesn't feel the need to chat your ear off?! Man I guess all I can say is congratulations. Stop trying to fuck it up.

 

Well if that's what you want, maybe you should just seek out a new person to date. I don't think circumstances are gonna change for this poor nurse. I can tell she wants to have a personal life but working 60+ hours a week can really suck the life out of a person. She most likely doesn't have the energy to feed your ego with cute texts. I imagine when she's not at work, she's sleeping until she has to get ready to go into work again the next night.

 

Hey @Monster Carrot isn't your wife a nurse?

 

Indeed

 

How is it I both love and hate you? We're overdo for a binging session. Step into my office *opens door luringly*

 

For me I'm not much into drama, if I send a message and she replies 3 hours later more than three different occasions I lose all interest and stop texting all together, if she wants to talk she knows where to find me. It's annoying and usually they do get interested when you stop paying attention but, a girl who truly wants things to work does take time to write or call, it's not the end of the world to do so, and to not do so is a clear sign she just doesn't care so, my advice? Avoid drama, move on.

 

THIS girl is not into you... Have you kissed her at least?

 

A guy called a woman and asked her out. The guy was nervous, was scared; he was shy.

“So we’re set for tomorrow night?”

“Umm, yeah,” she replied.

Then, tomorrow night came. The guy agonized over the date the entire day. How should he act? What shall he wear? Did he have enough money? Would he be fun enough?”

But the poor guy realized he was wasting his time worrying for there was no date. He got stood up.

Obviously, there HAD to be a reason. Perhaps something awful happened. Perhaps her car didn’t start. Perhaps some incredible thing occurred in her life AT THAT TIME that kept apart the two star crossed lovers!

So he tried again. “Did we miscommunicate?” “Oh, umm...Yeah.”

“You still want to go out?”

“Sure.”

“Let’s go out on this and this day. OK?”

“OK!”

That day comes. The guy gets stood up yet again.

But he rationalized it away. She did say she had things going on in her life. She did say that she wanted to go out with him. She did say that she wouldn’t mind spending time with him. Obviously, something had to have come up. After all, she SAID she wanted to go!

So the guy calls again and sets up another date. Likewise, he got stood up AGAIN. “Argh!” he screams to himself. “It is my fault. For I should...

“Judge by actions, not by words.”

Pook then took the young man to a wall with a majestic painting on it. The painting showed a young man, much like the young man in person, standing before a feminine monster, a sphinx!

“What is that monster?” cried the young man.

“Why,” said the Pook, “it is All Women, Mother Nature herself! This nasty sphinx devours all hearts and lives of those who cannot answer her riddle. That man, in the picture, he figured out the riddle to Woman. Thus, he became known as Don Juan.”

“And the answer to the riddle?”

“Is that there is no riddle. Woman is a sphinx with no secret. It is only our minds that we assign her secrets, mysteries, pedestals, and goddess-like status.”

Pook noticed that the young man was confused so he elaborated. “Look at the above example! Look at how the lad got stood up over and over and, yet, over and over he rationalized the standing up! How often is it that a lad rationalizes ‘signals’ to his liking? How often is it that a lad offers gifts and treasures as sacrifices to her goddess-likeness for in his mind she is a goddess? How often is it that a lad’s overactive imagination converts her disrespect, her shallowness, her flaws, into love?”

“So we paint the image we want to see?”

“Exactly! Judge by her actions and not by her words. Judge by what she does than by what your mind wants to see. Our vanity will convert the image of every disinterested girl into secretly loving us (for women tell us what we want to hear). This is why we must judge by her actions and not by her words.”

 

It sounds like she's not that interested at this point. I'd leave the ball in her court and stop texting her first. You may find things fizzle completely without you keeping something going. But there's no alternative. In any kind of relationship, dating or more serious, both people need to have ownership and be making efforts. You may find that eventually she realises she wants something so she will take action to make it happen.