Nothing to do all day

Hey J Scott, sorry you're feeling so low. I'm sorry I felt like that! I don't feel like that any more. That was written quite a while ago and the bit you've quoted from was from a section that put things in a very bad light.

You can change all that. It will be bloody hard work at first but you can do it. Anything we're not used to is tough.

As to activities... crikey! There's so much!

If you can, you should definitely include some sort of exercise in your daily routine - I do a little circuit training thing that's very easy to start with but can be built up.
Are you meditating? That's great for helping with this addiction (well done on 20 days! Fantastic!) and you can get quite heavily into it if that's a path that interests you.
You say you're not studying or working - I suppose you could make looking for work a task? There are lots of free online courses you can do. I'm doing one on songwriting from coursera (I had to pay, but very little and there are free sites). In the UK Futurelearn offers free courses I think.
Find something good to read. Something for fun, but something self-improving too perhaps. The Slight Edge is good, simple and short and gives you lots to do. It really is a very positive book all round.
And people are crying out for volunteers in all sorts of fields...

Hope you're feeling brighter soon.

 

Given that you are interested in a long-term career in a computer science related field, I'd probably first look to see where and how you can help other people and other businesses grow and prosper. Sometimes it actually helps to limit your options a bit and do something like consistently apply for career positions that directly involve analytical work (work that benefits from programming and computer science knowledge). Build versions of your resume around that (or a similar goal). Even if the position you initially take isn't what you want, you are still building a resume around work that can lead to your eventual goals.

From your life goal journal post, I noticed that you wanted to work during working hours. I can't find a good reason why you shouldn't start doing that today. You can schedule your business hours as though you were already a person working from home. My boss always told me that one fair question to any business person is "what is the business purpose of your action/request?". Keep that thought in mind during your working hours in that if someone were to ask you why you are spending your working hours the way you are, you'd be in some sort of position to answer them effectively. When the work hours are over, stop working and enjoy the rest of your personal life! In your personal time, you should have ample time for self-development, spiritual practices and a number of other parts of your life that ultimately lead to happiness. When you are working, it is often better to put most of your energy into how you can help others. It will show through in most any line of work you choose.

If I were in your shoes right now, I would put my career before my hobbies until you feel like you are spending too much time on the career. I know that you may have proclivities toward a more ascetic lifestyle, but right now your actions probably need to be more outgoing than internally or introspectively focused. Sometimes to get where you want to be, you need to do the opposite for awhile. That is why I strongly encourage you to take the time to help others and solve some of their tougher analytical problems starting now. Computer science, software development and nearly any other IT related career is about problem solving and about supporting the technical needs of people and organizations that depend on you for daily operational success. It helps to let others know what skills you have as well as what you are interested in and are willing to do to help them.

Shower yourself with a wealth of knowledge, information and intellectual avenues for improvement and you will likely not regret the decision. Make the wrong call on what your life priorities should be and it may be another story. You may know better than we do what you really need to do next to live the life you want. Just make sure you don't try to tackle too many things all at once. If it were me, I'd work on the career (career not finding a job).

 

You could watch CBT Nuggets!
Or look into meetups.com Not sure how many in Aus, but it keeps me busy some days

 

same exact problem 'cept I'm 20.
I play fallout 4, I use to have oxycodone to do but I ran out.
But as the days go by and you continue to reboot you'll enjoy the little things.
Right now ur probably in a flatline

 

Hi bro,

I am a bit in the same spot.
Did quit my study in december, since i will start a new study this year i am focusing on math.

Daily routine:

• Meditation ******
• Reading book
• Math
• Improving curriculum vitae
• Cold showers ******
• Focus on Nofap
• Watching TedTalks
• Workout.
• Learning Spanish

 

Start small read for example 10 pages of a good book daily.

 

Read books or learn a new hobby from the internet!

 

I had a good family friend when I was younger that ended up being a manager at a major grocery chain. He ended up picking the nicest grocery chain in the area that focused heavily on great customer service. As far as I know he and his family are doing well now.

 

@J Scott

Hi bro,

Nice to here you are making progress!
I wish u all the best!

 

how about u go to a shooting range? u like guns?

 

Dude...the idle mind is the Devil's playground. Or something like that.

Keep yourself busy. Learn something new or work out. Write a journal about what you feel and what your thoughts are. Go for a bike ride. Go for a hike. Look for projects to do. Keep yourself busy when you are not focusing on your objective.

Last year, when I tried nofap, I failed quickly because I had NOTHING to keep myself busy with.